{"id":118,"date":"2021-02-02T17:37:59","date_gmt":"2021-02-02T16:37:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/qika.org\/?post_type=lexo-post&p=118"},"modified":"2021-03-29T13:00:04","modified_gmt":"2021-03-29T12:00:04","slug":"lorem-ipsum-5","status":"publish","type":"lexo-post","link":"https:\/\/qika.org\/en\/lexo-post\/lorem-ipsum-5\/","title":{"rendered":"Elena Ferrante: \u201cEdhe sot, pas nj\u00eb shekulli me feminiz\u00ebm, nuk mund t\u00eb jemi plot\u00ebsisht vetja\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e kodifikuar n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb nevojave t\u00eb burrave \u2013 madje edhe t\u00eb brendshmet tona, praktika seksuale e am\u00ebsia.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb parim, un\u00eb refuzoj t\u00eb flas keq p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr, edhe n\u00ebse m\u00eb ka ofenduar n\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb patolerueshme. Ndjehem e detyruar t\u00eb pozicionohem n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sepse jam e vet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr situatat n\u00ebp\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat kalojn\u00eb: e shoh te vetja, e shoh tek t\u00eb tjerat, dhe e di q\u00eb nuk ka asnj\u00eb grua q\u00eb p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrfunduar dit\u00ebn nuk i \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb kaloj n\u00ebp\u00ebr situata t\u00eb lodhshme e t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitshme. T\u00eb varfra apo t\u00eb pasura, t\u00eb shkolluara e t\u00eb pashkolluara, t\u00eb bukura e t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuara, t\u00eb famshme e t\u00eb panjohura, t\u00eb martuara apo beqare, t\u00eb pun\u00ebsuara apo t\u00eb papun\u00ebsuara, me f\u00ebmij\u00eb ose pa f\u00ebmij\u00eb, rebele apo t\u00eb d\u00ebgjueshme, q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha vler\u00ebsohemi nga nj\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb sado q\u00eb pretendojm\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e jona, \u00ebsht\u00eb e helmuar n\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00eb nga dominimi i burrave p\u00ebr shekuj t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grat\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb mes t\u00eb kontradiktave t\u00eb p\u00ebrhershme e me pun\u00eb t\u00eb paq\u00ebndrueshme. Gjith\u00e7ka, v\u00ebrtet\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka, \u00ebsht\u00eb e rregulluar sipas nevojave t\u00eb burrave \u2013 madje edhe t\u00eb brendshmet tona, praktikat seksuale, dhe am\u00ebsia. Ne duhet t\u00eb jemi gra sipas roleve dhe m\u00ebnyrave q\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb burrat t\u00eb lumtur. Mir\u00ebpo gjithashtu ne duhet t\u00eb ballafaqohemi me ta, t\u00eb garojm\u00eb kund\u00ebr tyre n\u00eb vende publike, t\u2019i paraqesim m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb sesa q\u00eb jan\u00eb dhe sigurisht t\u00eb kujdesemi q\u00eb mos t\u2019i ofendojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nj\u00eb grua e re t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e p\u00eblqej shum\u00eb m\u00eb tha: \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb problem me burra dhe jam m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb mos e \u201cteproj\u201d. Donte t\u00eb thoshte se i \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur ta m\u00ebsoj veten q\u00eb t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb tep\u00ebr e bukur, tep\u00ebr inteligjente, tep\u00ebr e kujdesshme, tep\u00ebr e pavarur, tep\u00ebr zem\u00ebrgjer\u00eb, tep\u00ebr agresive, apo tep\u00ebr e sjellshme. Kjo \u2018TEP\u00cbR\u2019 e nj\u00eb gruaje \u00ebsht\u00eb shkaktare e veprimeve t\u00eb dhunshme t\u00eb burrave dhe p\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, shkakton armiq\u00ebsi me grat\u00eb e tjera t\u00eb cilat \u00e7do dit\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb obliguara t\u00eb luftojn\u00eb nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebn p\u00ebr troshat q\u00eb kan\u00eb mbetur nga burrat. Kurse, \u2018TEP\u00cbR\u2019 e burrave shpie drejt nj\u00eb admirimi t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm dhe fuqizimi t\u00eb pozit\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.  Pasoj\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm fakti q\u00eb e mbyt\u00eb fuqin\u00eb e grave, por edhe q\u00eb p\u00ebr hat\u00ebr t\u00eb paqes dhe qet\u00ebsis\u00eb, ne ia z\u00ebm\u00eb frym\u00ebn vetvetes. Edhe sot, pas nj\u00eb shekulli me feminiz\u00ebm nuk mund t\u00eb jemi t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht vetvetja, nuk i p\u00ebrkasim vetvetes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Defektet, mizorit\u00eb, krimet, virtytet, k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb, si dhe gjuha jon\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb gdhendura n\u00eb hierarkin\u00eb e burrave, ato d\u00ebnohen ose lavd\u00ebrohen me kriteret q\u00eb nuk na p\u00ebrkasin prandaj edhe na st\u00ebrlodhin. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rrethan\u00eb e till\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb jesh e urryer nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e edhe nga vetja. T\u00eb tregojm\u00eb se kush jemi drejt nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjeje p\u00ebr autonomi, k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb kemi v\u00ebmendje t\u00eb pam\u00ebshirshme p\u00ebr vetveten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prandaj ndihem e af\u00ebrt me t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb, dhe ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb arsye, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye tjet\u00ebr, e shoh vet\u00ebn tek m\u00eb t\u00eb mirat dhe tek m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, m\u00eb pyesin njer\u00ebzit, q\u00eb nuk e njeh as edhe nj\u00eb BITCH? I njoh disa, padyshim: n\u00eb let\u00ebrsi ka shum\u00eb, nj\u00ebsoj edhe n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme. Por, kur i konsideroj t\u00eb gjitha rrethanat, prap se prap un\u00eb jam n\u00eb an\u00ebn e tyre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Elena Ferrante<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E p\u00ebrktheu: Njomza Tmava<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tekstin origjinal mund ta gjeni n\u00eb:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/lifeandstyle\/2018\/mar\/17\/elena-ferrante-even-after-century-of-feminism-cant-be-ourselves?fbclid=IwAR1NzHu18aw8pdsPGpjFzfnmLZ_buYzbUCkIkPJdNJqWcEg_HDpeqku6XDY<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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