Zhdukja e Sarah Everald p\u00ebrderisa ajo ecte n\u00ebp\u00ebr Clapham, n\u00eb jug t\u00eb Londr\u00ebs, n\u00eb or\u00ebn 21:00, me dat\u00eb 3 mars i jep nj\u00eb form\u00eb tmerruese gum\u00ebzhitjes s\u00eb frik\u00ebs q\u00eb grat\u00eb e ndjejn\u00eb vazhdimisht n\u00eb hap\u00ebsira publike. Faqet e rrjeteve sociale jan\u00eb plot me gra t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuara nga zhdukja e Sar\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb tmerruara nga fakti se ato mund t\u00eb kishin qen\u00eb n\u00eb vend t\u00eb saj. Burrat kan\u00eb pyetur se \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurta. Por ajo q\u00eb nevojitet p\u00ebrtej arsimimit t\u00eb individ\u00ebve jan\u00eb zgjidhjet urgjente politike p\u00ebr t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtuar p\u00ebrpjekjen e burrave p\u00ebr ta zaptuar hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn publike si sfer\u00eb ekskluzivisht t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Frika q\u00eb e ndjejm\u00eb\u0308 n\u00eb hap\u00ebsira publike \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e zakonshme sa q\u00eb shum\u00eb gra e konsiderojn\u00eb at\u00eb nj\u00eb fakt jet\u00ebsor. Nj\u00eb\u0308 studim i koh\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit p\u00ebr UN Women UK, zbuloi se 80% e grave t\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha moshave kishin th\u00ebn\u00eb se kishin p\u00ebrjetuar ngacmime seksuale n\u00eb hap\u00ebsira publike, ku burrat ishin p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs t\u00eb krimit n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn d\u00ebrmuese t\u00eb rasteve. Gjat\u00eb vrapimit, un\u00eb jam ndjekur nga burra dhe rrall\u00eb her\u00eb kalon nj\u00eb jav\u00eb pa kalimtar\u00eb burra q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb komente n\u00ebn\u00e7muese ose l\u00ebshojn\u00eb britma. K\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia q\u00eb e gjej\u00eb te vrapimi m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pak\u00ebsuar nga frika.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo frik\u00eb thellohet nga njohuria se ngacmimi mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb me sulm ose vrasje. N\u00eb periudh\u00ebn kohore prej vet\u00ebm 9 dit\u00ebsh n\u00eb vitin 2016 n\u00eb SHBA, Ally Brueger, Karina Vetrano dhe Vanessa Marcotte, t\u00eb gjitha ishin vrar\u00eb nga burra p\u00ebrderisa po vraponin. \u00cbsht\u00eb e pamundur q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb dijn\u00eb n\u00ebse nj\u00eb rast i vet\u00ebm i abuzimit mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkall\u00ebzohet, andaj ne duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrgaditemi p\u00ebr skenarin m\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm; duke e konsideruar \u00e7do burr\u00eb i cili ngacmon si p\u00ebrdhunues ose vras\u00ebs potencial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ngacmimi rrugor \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra se si burrat e sh\u00ebnjojn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn publike si t\u00eb tyren, duke i shnd\u00ebrruar grat\u00eb n\u00eb shkel\u00ebse t\u00eb territorit t\u00eb burrave. Psikolog\u00ebt e sjelljes kan\u00eb v\u00ebrejtur se si k\u00ebmb\u00ebsor\u00ebt burra e zaptojn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn personale t\u00eb grave n\u00eb bankomate dhe semafor, se si grupe burrash z\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb n\u00eb trotuare dhe se si burrat b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb zhurm\u00eb n\u00eb publik se sa grat\u00eb dhe e konsiderojn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb pranueshme t\u00eb flasin n\u00eb telefonat mobil n\u00eb pikat e shitjes apo n\u00eb vagon t\u00eb trenit. Grat\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuara se burrat prej zhurmave t\u00eb tilla publike t\u00eb pad\u00ebshirueshme. Ne nuk e dim\u00eb se si k\u00ebto konfrontime mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkall\u00ebzohen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb problem i ri. N\u00eb fakt, burrat kan\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtojn\u00eb grat\u00eb nga hap\u00ebsirat publike dhe t’i b\u00ebjn\u00eb ato t\u00eb ndihen jo rehat. N\u00eb shekullin XIX, kafiterit\u00eb, sallonet dhe restorantet n\u00eb SHBA dhe Britani t\u00eb Madhe ishin pothuajse ekskluzivisht hap\u00ebsira burrash. Rregullat shtet\u00ebrore ua ndalonin hyrjen grave ose i ve\u00e7onin ato n\u00eb \u201cskuta t\u00eb zonjave\u201d. N\u00eb vitin 1941, nj\u00eb britanez q\u00eb i vizitonte pub-et refuzoi t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorte fjal\u00ebn \u201cpub\u201d p\u00ebr t\u2019iu referuar hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs ku p\u00ebrzihen t\u00eb dy gjinit\u00eb (pub): \u201cpub\u201d ishte shkurtes\u00eb p\u00ebr \u201cpublic house\u201d (sht\u00ebpi publike) dhe k\u00ebshtu grat\u00eb nuk e kishin vendin n\u00eb \u2018pub\u2019, ashtu si\u00e7 nuk e kishin vendin n\u00eb \u2018publik\u2019\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb hap\u00ebsira t\u00eb ndara formalisht, grat\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi toleroheshin vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ato i sh\u00ebrbenin burrave: si n\u00eb rastet kur ishin prostituta apo kamariere. Burrat zbatuan nj\u00eb logjik\u00eb t\u00eb ngjajshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha hap\u00ebsirat publike: po q\u00eb se silleshin me t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb n\u00eb rrug\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si silleshin me sh\u00ebrb\u00ebtoret ose prostitutat, k\u00ebto hap\u00ebsira sh\u00ebnjoheshin si sfera t\u00eb burrave, q\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptonte q\u00eb grat\u00eb q\u00eb futeshin aty e pranonin abuzimin e tyre. Si\u00e7 ka shkruar zoologu Edwin Ray Lankester, drejtori i tret\u00eb i Muzeut Historik Natyror, \u201cn\u00ebse grat\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb duan t\u00eb rrin\u00eb vet\u00ebm\u201d, ato duhet \u201ct\u2019i shmangin p\u00ebrndjekjet e burrave\u201d. P\u00ebrndjekjet e burrave ishin n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha hap\u00ebsirat publike, andaj do t\u00eb ishte \u2018komike\u2019 q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb \u201ckund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb ngacmimin n\u00eb rrug\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shum\u00eb burra sot me sa duket ende i besojn\u00eb nj\u00eb kontrate t\u00eb ngjajshme shoq\u00ebrore. Duke i abuzuar dhe ngacmuar grat\u00eb, burrat i b\u00ebjn\u00eb hap\u00ebsirat publike t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb tyre dhe duke u futur n\u00eb k\u00ebto hap\u00ebsira, ata konsiderojn\u00eb se grat\u00eb pranojn\u00eb abuzimin e tyre. Shum\u00eb shpesh p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019i ndaluar k\u00ebto sjellje iu bie grave m\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se burrave. Shum\u00eb gra jan\u00eb t\u00eb familjarizuara me k\u00ebshillat si t\u2019i mbajn\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsat n\u00eb dor\u00eb p\u00ebrderisa shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, t\u00eb mos d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb muzik\u00eb, t\u00eb mos dehen, t\u00eb ecin n\u00eb rrug\u00eb t\u00eb ndri\u00e7uara mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebrtasin \u2018zjarr\u2019 n\u00eb vend t\u00eb \u2018p\u00ebrdhunim\u2019 n\u00eb rast t\u00eb sulmit, sepse e para merret m\u00eb seriozisht. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb djemt\u00eb dhe burrat q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ngacmojn\u00eb, sulmojn\u00eb ose vrasin, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia p\u00ebr parandalimin e dhun\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb vendosur mbi sjelljen e grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ajo q\u00eb i mungon diskutimeve rreth frik\u00ebs s\u00eb grave \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrimi te burrat. Ngacmimi dhe sulmi i grave nga burrat \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjeje t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme, afatgjat\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndalur progresin p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtat e grave dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb kufizuar pranin\u00eb ton\u00eb n\u00eb hap\u00ebsirat publike. Disa burra q\u00ebllimmir\u00eb pyesin se si mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb sjelljet e tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb na b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndihemi m\u00eb t\u00eb qeta dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurta dhe madje kalojn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn p\u00ebr t’u siguruar q\u00eb nuk po ecin pas nesh gjat\u00eb nat\u00ebs. Por ne kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr zgjidhje p\u00ebrtej sjelljes individuale dhe duhet ta trajtojm\u00eb abuzimin dhe frik\u00ebsimin e grave nga burrat si nj\u00eb problem sistemik. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sfid\u00eb urgjente karshi t\u00eb drejtave grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n