Askush nuk duhet t\u00eb ndihet si viktim\u00eb kur merr vendime elementare p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si kryhet nj\u00eb abort i mir\u00eb? Para ca muajve, Emily Letts, nj\u00eb amerikane 25 vje\u00e7are xhiroi abortin e saj kirurgjik dhe e postoi videon n\u00eb internet. N\u00eb klip, Letts buz\u00ebqesh\u00eb dhe p\u00ebshp\u00ebrit\u00eb p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb procedur\u00ebs t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ajo vendosi ta kryej vet\u00ebm sepse nuk donte t\u00eb kishte f\u00ebmij\u00eb. \u201cPo ndihem mir\u00eb\u201d, tha ajo pasi p\u00ebrfundoi procedur\u00ebn e abortimit dhe p\u00ebrmes k\u00ebtyre tri fjal\u00ebve shkat\u00ebrroi ankthin dhe frik\u00ebn e gjeneratave t\u00eb t\u00ebra mbi tem\u00ebn e abortit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ideja q\u00eb aborti mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb zgjedhje e mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ende tabu. P\u00ebr disa, e vetmja arsye q\u00eb kjo zgjedhje mund t\u00eb tolerohet \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rastin kur shtatz\u00ebnia \u00ebsht\u00eb rrezik i menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm p\u00ebr jet\u00eb apo vie si pasoj\u00eb e dhunimit. Edhe n\u00eb at\u00eb rast, personi i cili kryen abortin pritet t\u00eb ndihet keq gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn, t\u00eb qaj e t\u00eb vuaj p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb vendim. N\u00eb Britani, Ligji mbi Abortin i vitit 1967, obligon k\u00ebdo q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnin\u00eb t\u00eb arsyetohet se n\u00ebse e vazhdon shtatz\u00ebnin\u00eb jeta dhe mir\u00ebqenia e saj ose e \u201cpasardh\u00ebsit\u201d te saj do t\u00eb rrezikohet. \u201cDua t\u00eb abortoj thjesht sepse nuk dua t\u00eb jem shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb\u201d nuk mjafton si arsyetim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prandaj u pa si skandal kur modelja Josie Cunningham deklaroi q\u00eb po planifikonte t\u00eb nd\u00ebrpriste shtatz\u00ebnin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb program televiziv. Mediat roz\u00eb menj\u00ebher\u00eb filluan ta kritikojn\u00eb Cunningham: ajo ishte definicioni i egoizmit, nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb mburrej q\u00eb ka kryer abort p\u00ebr ta zhvilluar karrier\u00ebn. Jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb fetishizon \u201czgjedhjen\u201d, kur n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb u mohon gjysm\u00ebs s\u00eb popullsis\u00eb zgjedhjen m\u00eb themelore \u2013 at\u00eb mbi autonomin\u00eb e trupit t\u00eb vet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ligji mbi Abortin i vitit 1967 nuk vlen p\u00ebr Irland\u00ebn Veriore. Grat\u00eb atje edhe pse paguajn\u00eb sigurim sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor p\u00ebrmes taksave, vazhdojn\u00eb ta ken\u00eb t\u00eb ndaluar t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn p\u00ebr abort, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 n\u00ebse udh\u00ebtojn\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb Angli dhe e paguajn\u00eb vet. Si rezultat i vendimit t\u00eb gjykat\u00ebs s\u00eb lart\u00eb, qindra gra \u00e7do vit vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb udh\u00ebtojn\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb Heathrow dhe Manchester, t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuara e t\u00eb vetme, t\u00eb futura n\u00eb borxh, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb kryer k\u00ebt\u00eb procedur\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb Irland\u00ebn Veriore, nj\u00ebsoj sikur n\u00eb gjith\u00eb bot\u00ebn, ideja q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb kontroll t\u00eb plot\u00eb mbi sh\u00ebndetin e tyre riprodhues\u2013 nocioni q\u00eb ne duhet t\u00eb kemi mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhim, pa turp e pa frik\u00eb, kudo dhe kurdo se a d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb t\u00eb kemi f\u00ebmij\u00eb a jo – frik\u00ebson t\u00eb fuqishmit. Kur aborti diskutohet n\u00eb publik, gati gjithmon\u00eb diskutohet mbi baz\u00ebn e moralit individual. Shihet si gabim moral i grave egoiste q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u00eb drejtat e tyre. E shum\u00eb rrall\u00eb diskutohet mbi baz\u00ebn e pabarazive strukturore e ekonomike. Sidoqoft\u00eb, pabarazia riprodhuese vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr bazat kryesore p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb s\u00eb cil\u00ebs grat\u00eb kan\u00eb status t\u00eb klas\u00ebs s\u00eb dyt\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Ndikon n\u00eb \u00e7do aspekt t\u00eb s\u00eb ardhmes son\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mendoni, p\u00ebr shembull, mbi polemik\u00ebn lidhur me \u201csocial surrogacies\u201d \u2013 gra t\u00eb pasura q\u00eb paguajn\u00eb grat\u00eb e varf\u00ebra t\u00eb mbesin shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb dhe t\u00eb lindin, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb tyre. Kur reagojm\u00eb t\u00eb tmerruar mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb ide, harrojm\u00eb q\u00eb burrat b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb: zgjedhin grat\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb, bartin dhe t\u2019i rrisin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr ta sepse n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb burrat mund t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb karrier\u00ebn pa pasur nevoj\u00eb ta nd\u00ebrprejn\u00eb at\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb baza e pabarazis\u00eb gjinore dhe duhet t\u00eb diskutohet sinqerisht si padrejt\u00ebsi strukturore e jo si \u00e7\u00ebshtje e moralit individual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aborti, am\u00ebsia dhe kujdesi p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin riprodhues mbesin probleme stresuese, posa\u00e7\u00ebrisht tani, kur k\u00ebrkesat e grave p\u00ebr kontroll mbi trupin e tyre, po dallojn\u00eb shum\u00eb nga politikat publike zyrtare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb shtetet si Irlanda, Spanja dhe SHBA, trupi i grave vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb territori ku patriarkati zhvillon luft\u00ebn p\u00ebr dominim moral.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aborti mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim i dhimbsh\u00ebm dhe i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u2013 n\u00ebse, p\u00ebr shembull, ti do t\u00eb doje t\u00eb kishe nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb por nuk je n\u00eb pozit\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb vendim t\u00eb till\u00eb sepse termi \u2018n\u00ebn\u00eb vetushqyese\u2019 vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb sinomim p\u00ebr termet \u2018e varf\u00ebr dhe e vetme\u2019 dhe diskriminimi gjat\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb i p\u00ebrhapur. Por aborti mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb vendim i leht\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb patjet\u00ebr grat\u00eb t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb vite duke u penduar, si shembulli i Emily Letts, q\u00eb nuk pendohej fare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u00ebshtu, n\u00eb rast se nuk isha e qart\u00eb n\u00eb pozicionin tim. Aborti duhet t\u00eb lejohet kur k\u00ebrkohet, pa ndonj\u00eb ndales\u00eb, p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron ta kryej. Un\u00eb besoj q\u00eb p\u00ebr aq gjat\u00eb sa shoq\u00ebria ende cakton limite mbi at\u00eb se \u00e7ka duhet e \u00e7ka nuk duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb grua me trupin e saj, n\u00eb koh\u00ebn kur seksualiteti dhe aft\u00ebsia riprodhuese jan\u00eb ende t\u00eb kontrolluara nga shteti, \u00e7do diskutim p\u00ebr barazi dhe fuqizim t\u00eb grave \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht shaka. Askush nuk duhet t\u00eb ndihet si viktim\u00eb kur merr vendime elementare p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e saj. Duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mjaftueshme thjesht t\u00eb shkoj n\u00eb klinik\u00eb dhe t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201cNuk dua\u201d ose \u201cKam nd\u00ebrruar mendje\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse do t\u00eb kishte me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr zgjedhje, shtatz\u00ebnia, lindja e am\u00ebsia nuk do t\u00eb vinin s\u00eb bashku me nj\u00eb num\u00ebr t\u00eb madh nd\u00ebshkimesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 atyre t\u00eb pasurave. Shoq\u00ebria duhet t\u00eb m\u00ebsohet t\u00eb siguroj mb\u00ebshtetje p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, beqar\u00eb apo n\u00eb lidhje, t\u00eb pun\u00ebsuar apo t\u00eb papun\u00eb, para se t\u2019i obligoj ata t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb l\u00ebmosh\u00eb, t\u00eb turp\u00ebruar dhe n\u00ebn k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimin e vazhduesh\u00ebm q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtohen nga rrethi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb dukej nj\u00eb situat\u00eb ku me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ekziston e drejta p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur. Problemi me iden\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i lejojm\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb marrin vendime p\u00ebr vet\u00ebn, \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb gjithsesi disa prej tyre do marrin vendime jo t\u00eb mira me t\u00eb cilat ne nuk pajtohemi. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz kan\u00eb arsye fetare ose personale p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos pranuar abortin dhe ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb, ashtu si\u00e7 kan\u00eb qen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos kryejn\u00eb abort p\u00ebr veten e tyre. Por, ka ardhur koha t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb debat n\u00eb thelb. \u00cbsht\u00eb koha t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb t\u00eb drejta riprodhuese p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb – pa pasur nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb falje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E p\u00ebrktheu: Njomza Tmava<\/p>\n\n\n\n