Alexandra Brodsky, avokate e t\u00eb drejtave civile diskuton sesi legjislacioni q\u00eb ndalon t\u00eb ashtuquajtur\u00ebn heqja e kondomit \u201cfshehurazi\u201d pa p\u00eblqim t\u00eb partnerit gjat\u00eb aktit seksual mund t\u00eb zgjeroj\u00eb kuptimin e sulmeve seksuale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cT\u00eb minimizosh d\u00ebmtimin e dikujt q\u00eb t\u00eb mohon aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se si t\u00eb b\u00ebni seks \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb banalizim i t\u00eb gjitha formave t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale\u201d, thot\u00eb Alexandra Brodsky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jav\u00ebn e kaluar, legjislatura e Kalifornis\u00eb miratoi unanimisht projektligjin q\u00eb e konsideron t\u00eb jasht\u00ebligjsh\u00ebm heqjen e kondomit pa p\u00eblqimin e partnerit gjat\u00eb seksit, veprim ky i njohur si \u201cfshehje\u201d. N\u00ebse ky projektligj p\u00ebrfshihet n\u00eb ligj, gj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn guvernatori Gavin Newsom ka koh\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb deri m\u00eb 10 tetor t\u00eb k\u00ebtij viti, Kalifornia do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet shteti i par\u00eb n\u00eb SHBA q\u00eb do t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb shprehimisht \u201cfshehjen\u201d si nj\u00eb shkelje t\u00eb paligjshme t\u00eb aprovimit. Disa vende p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb k\u00ebtu Gjermanin\u00eb, Zvicr\u00ebn dhe Mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb e Bashkuar e kan\u00eb ndjekur penalisht k\u00ebt\u00eb akt si form\u00eb e sulmit seksual. Projektligji i cili u prezantua nga asambleistja Cristina Garcia, do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb kodin civil t\u00eb shtetit dhe do t\u00eb lejoj\u00eb viktimat t\u00eb padisin autor\u00ebt p\u00ebr d\u00ebmtimet e shkaktuara. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb hera e dyt\u00eb q\u00eb Garcia shkruan legjislacion p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje. Projektligji i saj i kaluar, i prezantuar kat\u00ebr vjet m\u00eb par\u00eb propozonte q\u00eb ky akt ishte shkelje penale, por kjo nuk kaloi n\u00eb legjislatur\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull t\u00eb vitit 2017 Garcia adresoi \u00e7\u00ebshtjen e heqjes s\u00eb kondomit pa p\u00eblqim gjat\u00eb aktit seksual. Ky artikull u shkrua nga avokatja Alexandra Brodsky e cila at\u00ebkoh\u00eb ishte studente e vitit t\u00eb tret\u00eb n\u00eb Yale Law School. Punimi i Brodsky-t \u201c\u00c7\u00ebshtjet q\u00eb lidhen me p\u00ebrdhunimin: T\u00eb imagjinuarit e p\u00ebrgjigjeve ligjore lidhur me heqjen e kondomit pa p\u00eblqim\u201d, p\u00ebrdor nj\u00eb kombinim t\u00eb intervistave t\u00eb realizuara dhe analizave ligjore p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se \u201cfsheht\u00ebsia\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb shkelje nj\u00eblloj si format e tjera t\u00eb sulmit seksual. Punimi u botua n\u00eb Columbia Journal of Gender & Law n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin vit kur Garcia prezantoi projektligjin e saj kund\u00ebr \u201cheqjes s\u00eb kondomit fshehurazi\u201d. \u00c7udit\u00ebrisht, si nj\u00eb artikull ligjor ai u b\u00eb viral. \u201cGjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb vazhdoj t\u00eb befasohem se si nj\u00eb punim semestral q\u00eb kisha shkruar p\u00ebr shkoll\u00ebn juridike, u lexua nga nj\u00eb num\u00ebr i njer\u00ebzve dhe tani ndoshta do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ligj aktual?\u201d shkroi Brodksky n\u00eb Twitter jav\u00ebn e kaluar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Koh\u00ebt e fundit kam biseduar me Brodsky-n, e cila tani \u00ebsht\u00eb avokate e t\u00eb drejtave civile n\u00eb Drejt\u00ebsin\u00eb Publike jo-fitimprur\u00ebse. Menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas diplomimit nga kolegji, ajo bashk\u00eb-themeloi Know Your IX, nj\u00eb organizat\u00eb q\u00eb ndihmon student\u00ebt t\u00eb mbrojn\u00eb titullin IX dhe tani ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb autore e librit t\u00eb fundit \u201cSexual Justice\u201d i cili kthen lentat e nj\u00eb avokati aktivist n\u00eb m\u00ebnyrat se si kolegjet, vendet e pun\u00ebs dhe institucionet e tjera mund t\u00eb trajtojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb dhe njer\u00ebzore akuzat p\u00ebr sjellje t\u00eb pahijshme seksuale. Nj\u00eb fragment i librit u botua n\u00eb The New York Times muajin e kaluar. Gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs ton\u00eb, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb redaktuar p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb gjat\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe qart\u00ebsis\u00eb, ne diskutuam projektligjin novator t\u00eb Kalifornis\u00eb, implikimet n\u00ebse sjellja e pa hijshme seksuale \u00ebsht\u00eb shkelje civile apo kriminale dhe gam\u00ebn e habitshme t\u00eb atyre q\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtuan k\u00ebt\u00eb projektligj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Si ju erdhi ideja p\u00ebr t\u00eb hulumtuar \u00e7\u00ebshtjen e heqjes s\u00eb kondomit pa p\u00eblqim si nj\u00eb tem\u00eb ligjore?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Para dhe gjat\u00eb koh\u00ebs kur isha n\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn juridike, kam kaluar shum\u00eb koh\u00eb duke punuar me student\u00eb dhe t\u00eb diplomuar t\u00eb rijn\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ishin t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr dhun\u00ebn seksuale. Kam takuar shum\u00eb t\u00eb mbijetuar dhe u ekspozova ndaj historive t\u00eb ndryshme mbi llojet e d\u00ebmtimeve seksuale. Dhuna seksuale shfaqet n\u00eb forma t\u00eb ndryshme, shum\u00eb pak prej tyre jan\u00eb rastet klishe ku p\u00ebrdhunuesi del nga shkurret. Ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht tek t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb dhuna seksuale shpesh ndodh\u00eb n\u00eb kontekstin e seksit me p\u00eblqim. Kur fillova shkoll\u00ebn juridike, kisha k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje n\u00eb kok\u00ebn time n\u00ebse heqja e kondomit pa p\u00eblqimin e partnerit \u00ebsht\u00eb e njohur sipas ndonj\u00eb prej ligjeve q\u00eb kemi sot e q\u00eb adresojn\u00eb sulmet seksuale dhe n\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
semestrin e fundit t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs juridike vendosa t\u00eb hulumtoj mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb m\u00eb kuptimplot\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e punimit p\u00ebrfshin analiz\u00ebn ligjore, e cila mendoj se ndoshta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb interesante p\u00ebr ask\u00ebnd tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7 avokat\u00ebve. Por gjithashtu kam biseduar me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb kishin p\u00ebrjetuar \u201cheqjen e kondomit fshehurazi\u201d dhe i kam d\u00ebgjuar ata t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruanin d\u00ebmtimet q\u00eb kjo gj\u00eb u kishte shkaktuar. Edhe n\u00eb mesin e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb pajtohen se dhuna seksuale \u00ebsht\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme, gj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mendoj se shumica mendojn\u00eb nj\u00eblloj, edhe pse jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, ne ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb kemi kuptime t\u00eb holl\u00ebsishme se si dhuna seksuale i d\u00ebmton njer\u00ebzit. T\u00eb mbijetuarit e k\u00ebtij d\u00ebmi (pra, heqja e kondomit pa p\u00eblqimin e tyre gjat\u00eb aktit seksual) biseduan me mua p\u00ebr nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb ndjenjash: si i b\u00ebri ata t\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm, apo t\u00eb ndiheshin sikur partner\u00ebt e tyre thjesht nuk shqet\u00ebsoheshin fare p\u00ebr autonomin\u00eb e tyre. Gjithashtu p\u00ebr mua ishte interesante q\u00eb shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt bisedova ishin t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar thell\u00ebsisht nga kjo p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb, por nuk ishin t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm n\u00ebse kishin t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb ndiheshin ashtu. Ata nuk e dinin n\u00ebse ajo q\u00eb ata ndjenin si gj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe ishte me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e keqe. N\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn time, nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e vler\u00ebs s\u00eb em\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre gj\u00ebrave \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb pohosh p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbijetuarit se ata kan\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb mos trajtohen n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ekziston nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb e fort\u00eb feministe ti paraqesin d\u00ebmet si m\u00eb t\u00eb lexueshme duke i em\u00ebrtuar si \u201cngacmim seksual\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Po, kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht e drejt\u00eb. Gjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e \u00e7uditshme p\u00ebr mua q\u00eb ata t\u00eb cil\u00ebt e kan\u00eb lexuar k\u00ebt\u00eb punim nuk kan\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb me mua dhe nuk kan\u00eb qen\u00eb mentori im akademik. Zakonisht bursa juridike nuk ka nj\u00eb audienc\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb. Por, n\u00ebse kam nj\u00eb shpjegim p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb fakti se p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb ky fenomen u em\u00ebrua n\u00eb nj\u00eb forum publik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Menj\u00ebher\u00eb pasi u publikua punimi yt kishte nj\u00eb kritik\u00eb mjaft t\u00eb fort\u00eb nga shkrimtarja dhe aktivistja Judith Levine. Ajo argumentoi se kriminalizimi i heqjes s\u00eb kondomit pa p\u00eblqim t\u00eb partnerit, apo kategorizimi i k\u00ebsaj si shkelje civile, do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb shtrirje e r\u00ebnd\u00eb e \u201cprivatizimit t\u00eb siguris\u00eb seksuale\u201d si\u00e7 e quajti ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb e kam lexuar kritik\u00ebn e Levine si nj\u00eb kritik\u00eb civile libertariane, q\u00eb n\u00eb thelb \u00e7do kthes\u00eb ndaj ligjit p\u00ebr t\u00eb trajtuar dhun\u00ebn seksuale do ti sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pashmangshme q\u00ebllimeve jo-liberale. N\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00ebnyra un\u00eb e kuptoj thelbin e k\u00ebsaj kritike, por p\u00ebrgjigja nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb se viktimave t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale nuk u lejohet asnj\u00eb mjet juridik. Un\u00eb jam avokate, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb padyshim mendoj se ligji \u00ebsht\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm, por un\u00eb jam m\u00eb e interesuar n\u00eb balancimin e kujdessh\u00ebm t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitimeve dhe rreziqeve t\u00eb ligjit, si dhe t\u00eb arrij n\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjidhje t\u00eb arsyeshme sesa thjesht t\u00eb dor\u00ebzohem dhe t\u00eb heq dor\u00eb nga mund\u00ebsia e rekursit ligjor p\u00ebr viktima vet\u00ebm sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb proces i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. P\u00ebr mua \u00ebsht\u00eb interesante se sa shpesh libertarian\u00ebt civil\u00eb duken ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht t\u00eb etur p\u00ebr t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtuar \u00e7do lloj regjimi ligjor ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr d\u00ebmet seksuale. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb kam frik\u00eb se kjo pasqyron nj\u00eb pritshm\u00ebri q\u00eb viktimat e k\u00ebtij lloji t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb disproporcionale jan\u00eb gra, duhet ta p\u00ebrballojn\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjithshme n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra q\u00eb nuk i presim nga njer\u00ebzit kur p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb d\u00ebme t\u00eb tjera.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb punimin tuaj ju arrini n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se kjo shkelje nuk k\u00ebrkon kriminalizim por zgjidhje civile, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo \u00e7far\u00eb po b\u00ebn Kalifornia tani. Cristina Garcia, asambleistja e cila q\u00ebndron prapa k\u00ebtij projektligji, paraqiti nj\u00eb projekligj t\u00eb ngjash\u00ebm n\u00eb 2017 q\u00eb kishte p\u00ebr q\u00ebllim kriminalizmin e aktit, por ai projektligj nuk kaloi. Mendoni se ndryshimi nga shkelja penale n\u00eb at\u00eb civile solli ndryshimin?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb nuk jam p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb fare n\u00eb prapaskenat e k\u00ebtij projektligji. Mendoj se p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb mira shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz jan\u00eb t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr zgjerimin e shtrirjes s\u00eb ligjit penal n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdo m\u00ebnyre, edhe p\u00ebr rastet ku ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pajtohemi se jan\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme. Kjo q\u00ebndron n\u00eb simpatin\u00eb time t\u00eb pjesshme p\u00ebr nj\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
kritik\u00eb libertariane. Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb jasht\u00ebligjshme, ne duhet t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se cilat jan\u00eb kostot p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb paligjshme. Mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb arsye t\u00eb mira pse njer\u00ebzit do t\u00eb ndiheshin m\u00eb mir\u00eb me nj\u00eb ligj civil sesa me nj\u00eb ligj penal. Un\u00eb favorizoj nj\u00eb ligj civil sepse mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbijetuarit. Nuk po flas vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr pun\u00ebdh\u00ebn\u00ebsin tim, por puna ime e p\u00ebrditshme \u00ebsht\u00eb avokate e t\u00eb drejtave civile. Shum\u00eb nga klient\u00ebt e mi jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb ngacmimit seksual dhe ligji penal ka qen\u00eb pothuajse universalisht i padobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr ta. Nj\u00eb ligj civil ka p\u00ebrfitimin e sigurimit t\u00eb vendimmarrjes n\u00eb dor\u00ebn e t\u00eb mbijetuarit. N\u00eb ndjekje penale viktimat mb\u00ebshteten te policia dhe prokuror\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur n\u00ebse nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje shkon tutje, kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb thell\u00ebsisht e pafuqishme q\u00eb vjen pas shkeljes fillestare. N\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, n\u00eb shkeljen civile viktima merr vendimin n\u00ebse do t\u00eb ngrej\u00eb padin\u00eb. Ekziston nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb feministe e mjeteve juridike civile inovative. Akti i Dhun\u00ebs Kund\u00ebr Grave fillimisht kishte ligj civil, megjith\u00ebse p\u00ebrfundimisht u shua nga Gjykata Supreme. Shpresoj q\u00eb ky ligj n\u00eb Kaliforni t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb ftes\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019iu kthyer asaj tradite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb nga kritikat q\u00eb e hasim n\u00eb bisedat p\u00ebr heqjen e kondomit gjat\u00eb seksit pa p\u00eblqim t\u00eb partnerit \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja e d\u00ebmit aktual. Ekziston nj\u00eb precedent ligjor p\u00ebr dik\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb mbetet shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb kur mendojn\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ekziston rreziku i shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb, ose t\u00eb infektohet me s\u00ebmundje seksualisht t\u00eb transmetueshme (S.T.I) kur nuk u shkon nd\u00ebrmend se mund t\u00eb infektohen me s\u00ebmundje t\u00eb tilla. Por, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb pasojat e heqjes s\u00eb kondomit dhe nj\u00eb ligj i till\u00eb b\u00ebn q\u00eb heqja e tij t\u00eb jet\u00eb e jasht\u00ebligjshme, edhe n\u00ebse nuk ka pasoja fizike. A \u00ebsht\u00eb shkelja e besimit nj\u00eb d\u00ebm i mjaftuesh\u00ebm?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo duket si nj\u00eb kritik\u00eb e vet\u00eb konceptit se sulmi seksual \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e keqe. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb disa njer\u00ebz, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn pjes\u00ebrisht, jan\u00eb t\u00eb pik\u00eblluar q\u00eb jan\u00eb sulmuar seksualisht p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb l\u00ebndimeve fizike ose shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb. Por d\u00ebmtimi themelor \u00ebsht\u00eb mohimi i autonomis\u00eb dhe i personalitetit t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs. M\u00eb shqet\u00ebson ideja q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne mund t\u00eb marrim vendime se kur, si dhe me k\u00eb kryejm\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. Minimizimi i d\u00ebmtimit t\u00eb dikujt q\u00eb ju mohon t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se si b\u00ebni seks \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb banalizim i t\u00eb gjitha formave t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kalifornia nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb shteti i par\u00eb q\u00eb ka prezantuar legjislacionin kund\u00ebr heqjes s\u00eb kondomit pa p\u00eblqimin e partnerit. New York dhe Wisconsin prezantuan ligjet menj\u00ebher\u00eb pasi u botua punimi juaj n\u00eb vitin 2017, por nuk vazhduan m\u00eb tutje. Projektligji i m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm i Garcia-s n\u00eb Kaliforni nuk mori asnj\u00eb vot\u00eb. \u00c7far\u00eb ka ndryshuar midis asaj kohe dhe tani?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb nuk di mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr legjislaturat e New York, Wisconsin dhe Kalifornis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj analize krahasuese. Mendoj se ndryshimi legjislativ shpesh k\u00ebrkon shum\u00eb koh\u00eb. K\u00ebrkon m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa vet\u00ebm dik\u00eb q\u00eb shkruan nj\u00eb punim. Ekzistojn\u00eb burime t\u00eb tjera ndikuese. Shfaqja televizive \u201cI May Destroy You\u201d rr\u00ebfente p\u00ebr heqjen e kondomit pa p\u00eblqim, kjo shfaqje ndikoi shum\u00eb n\u00eb vet\u00ebdijen publike mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mbaj mend q\u00eb dialogu n\u00eb at\u00eb shfaqje ishte m\u00ebse i drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb: nj\u00eb personazh thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb si \u201cKjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse p\u00ebrdhunim. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunues\u201d. A nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e dhimbshme t\u00eb kuptosh se ky \u00ebsht\u00eb dallimi i cili sapo ka filluar t\u00eb b\u00ebhet n\u00eb SHBA.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur dikush thot\u00eb se nj\u00eb akt \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunim, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb pohim ligjor, por m\u00eb par\u00eb e konsideroj si pohim etik. Mendoj se ka shum\u00eb t\u00eb mbijetuar t\u00eb heqjes s\u00eb kondomit pa p\u00eblqim gjat\u00eb aktit seksual, gj\u00eb e cila i b\u00ebn t\u00eb ndihen nj\u00eblloj sikur p\u00ebrdhunimi. Por, ka edhe t\u00eb till\u00eb nga njer\u00ebzit me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kam biseduar q\u00eb nuk ndihen n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb. Kjo tregon pun\u00ebn q\u00eb b\u00ebn ligji n\u00eb form\u00ebsimin e angazhimeve tona etike e politike. Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ndihem se \u00ebsht\u00eb thell\u00ebsisht e panevojshme t\u00eb kujdesesh p\u00ebr ligjin. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit nuk besoj se ligji do t\u00eb jet\u00eb mjeti m\u00eb i mir\u00eb ose m\u00eb efektiv kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs seksuale, por mendoj se sh\u00ebrben si nj\u00eb mjet p\u00ebr ofrimin e mb\u00ebshtetjes p\u00ebr viktimat individuale dhe p\u00ebr form\u00ebsimin e asaj q\u00eb ne mendojm\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar dhe asaj q\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme. Ne mund t\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
v\u00ebrejm\u00eb versione zhg\u00ebnjyese t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ku njer\u00ebzit ndihen shum\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt kur thon\u00eb se n\u00ebse di\u00e7ka nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb krim at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb e madhe. Sigurisht q\u00eb ka shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb gabuara por nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb jasht\u00ebligjshme. Nuk mendoj se ligji duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb autoriteti p\u00ebrfundimtar se si duhet ta trajtojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, por ai form\u00ebson angazhimet tona. Mb\u00ebshtetja e drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb nga komuniteti ku p\u00ebrkasin t\u00eb mbijetuarit do t\u00eb ket\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb ndikim sesa gjykatat pothuajse n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha rastet. Organizimi si projekt politik p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund dhun\u00ebs do t\u00eb ket\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb ndikim p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndaluar sulmet seksuale, p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar ndryshime sistemike dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar struktura mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebse m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa ligji. Por, ligji mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb mjet rezerv\u00eb. Ligji mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb mjet i dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr disa njer\u00ebz. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb themeli i l\u00ebvizjes p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn punoj tani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse ky projektligj do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ligj n\u00eb Kaliforni \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo varet shum\u00eb nga fakti n\u00ebse avokat\u00ebt zgjedhin t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsojn\u00eb k\u00ebto raste. Un\u00eb besoj shum\u00eb n\u00eb mjetet juridike civile, por pengesa e dukshme \u00ebsht\u00eb se duhet t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb avokat\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb paraqesim k\u00ebto padi. Teorikisht, njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb sjellin avokatin e tyre por kjo ka shum\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb sukses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Padyshim, \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se projektligji m\u00eb vete dhe diskutimi mbi t\u00eb kontribuojn\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb kuptuarit publik t\u00eb d\u00ebmit dhe nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb u siguron vlefshm\u00ebri t\u00eb mbijetuarve. Shpresoj se kjo do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb mos mendohen se a duhet t\u00eb raportojn\u00eb raste t\u00eb tilla, qoft\u00eb sepse mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb probleme, apo q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb ditur se nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme apo p\u00ebr faktin se njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb do t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb dijeni p\u00ebr ndodhit\u00eb e tyre. Shpresoj q\u00eb ligji dhe diskutimi publik do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb form\u00ebsoj\u00eb pik\u00ebpamjen e tyre. Mendoj se ekziston nj\u00eb num\u00ebr i njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb koncepti binar t\u00eb p\u00eblqimit, ideja q\u00eb pasi keni pranuar t\u00eb b\u00ebni seks me dik\u00eb ju keni pranuar \u00e7do gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr gjat\u00eb aktit seksual dhe ndoshta ky ligj do t\u2019ua b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb se kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb qasja e duhur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb fakt nocioni i p\u00eblqimit duket se duhet t\u00eb artikulohet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un\u00eb kam shpres\u00eb se nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb po ndryshon. N\u00ebse bisedoni sot me student\u00eb, ata jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb kuptim shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb pasur mbi p\u00eblqimin por gjithashtu kan\u00eb nj\u00eb kritik\u00eb mbi p\u00eblqimin si akt i pamjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr autonomin\u00eb seksuale, pra p\u00eblqimi si nj\u00eb baz\u00eb dhe jo si nj\u00eb aspirat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por, pastaj shoh disa njer\u00ebz n\u00eb rrejte sociale dhe dekurajohem p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Nj\u00eb burr\u00eb m\u00eb gjeti n\u00eb Instagram dhe m\u00eb tha se isha \u201cnj\u00eb kurv\u00eb bazike q\u00eb po shkat\u00ebrroja gj\u00ebrat p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb.\u201d Dhe kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kritika e Judith Levine. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb di\u00e7ka si \u201cheqja e kondomit pa p\u00eblqimin e partnerit \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb arg\u00ebtuese, nj\u00eb gj\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00eblqen ta b\u00ebj dhe ndoshta tani nuk do t\u00eb mund ta b\u00ebj m\u00eb.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ky burr\u00eb duket se ka nj\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizim mjaft t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb t\u00eb fjalis\u00eb \u201cp\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk dua ta shtremb\u00ebroj \u00e7\u00ebshtjen, por pik\u00ebrisht ky \u00ebsht\u00eb problemi q\u00eb projektligji n\u00eb Kalifroni po synon ta rregulloj\u00eb. Kur zbulon se personi me t\u00eb cilin b\u00ebn seks ka nj\u00eb definicion t\u00eb till\u00eb si \u201cp\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb\u201d q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashton ty, at\u00ebher\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha alarmuese. Shpresoj q\u00eb p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb nuk arrijn\u00eb ta kuptojn\u00eb pse \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar ta heqin kondomin pa p\u00eblqimin e partnerit t\u00eb tyre, do t\u00eb ken\u00eb mund\u00ebsi ta kuptojn\u00eb se pse nj\u00eb ligj i till\u00eb ekziston.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Helen Rosner<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E p\u00ebrktheu: Greta Avdyli<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tekstin origjinal mund ta gjeni n\u00eb: https:\/\/www.newyorker.com\/news\/q-and-a\/the-meaning-of-californias-anti-stealthing-bill?fbclid=IwAR2ZNkcsewjG2IKKmwNuJLGpr22KseIwKdblbE93aAHmMRUtPnIjjspbJRY <\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":2829,"template":"","class_list":["post-2826","lexo-post","type-lexo-post","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n