Kur diskutojm\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtjet gjinore ose barazin\u00eb, njer\u00ebzit mendojn\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb shekulli i 21-t\u00eb dhe askush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb injorant p\u00ebr tendencat e nj\u00ebanshme. Por sot p\u00ebrmes k\u00ebtij shkrimi un\u00eb do t\u00eb trajtoj disa \u00e7\u00ebshtje q\u00eb jan\u00eb ende t\u00eb pranishme n\u00eb mesin ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shumica e konsiderojn\u00eb patriarkatin si rregull, por jo si paragjykim. \u2018Maskulizmi\u2019 ose \u2018Maskuliniteti\u2019 \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb keqkuptim i cili beson n\u00eb superioritetin e burrave dhe e p\u00ebrqafon patriarkatin ashtu si\u00e7 dhurohet q\u00eb nga lindja. Burrat e lindur dhe burrat e formuar nga shoq\u00ebria, jan\u00eb dy gj\u00ebra t\u00eb ndryshme. Biologjikisht ata kan\u00eb lindur si meshkuj, por jan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb jen\u00eb burra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shembull: \u201cMos qaj si vajzat\u201d, \u201cMos luaj me kukulla, luaj me makina\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burrat konsiderohen si agresiv\u00eb, militant\u00eb e t\u00eb pandjesh\u00ebm dhe grat\u00eb konsiderohen si t\u00eb ndjeshme e t\u00eb brishta. Ka disa njer\u00ebz q\u00eb besojn\u00eb se agresioni mashkullor, seksualiteti dhe sjelljet e tjera mashkullore lidhen me hormonet mashkullore. Por mendimet e tilla i detyrojn\u00eb ata t\u00eb besojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Nuk ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe n\u00eb t\u00eb qenit mashkullor, por imponimi i maskulinitetit toksik \u00ebsht\u00eb i gabuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shum\u00eb burra jan\u00eb n\u00eb depresion ose kan\u00eb tentuar t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre tipareve t\u00eb imponuara mashkullore. N\u00ebse ai humbet pun\u00ebn e tij, ai nuk duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb nga gruaja e tij, p\u00ebrndryshe shoq\u00ebria do ta etiketoj\u00eb si “burr\u00eb frikacak”. Kjo p\u00ebr shkak se burrat nuk mb\u00ebshteten tek grat\u00eb, ata supozohen t\u00eb ken\u00eb kontroll mbi familjen e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ka konsiderohet mashkullore: \u201cDominues, i fort\u00eb, i pavarur, i sigurt, trim, inovativ\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ka konsiderohet fem\u00ebrore: \u201cEmocionale, bashk\u00ebpunuese, edukuese, e ndjeshme, e kujdesshme, e p\u00ebrulur\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse nj\u00eb grua \u00ebsht\u00eb dominuese, ajo shihet si shefe n\u00eb konotacionin negativ, por n\u00ebse nj\u00eb burr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dominues, ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shef dhe merr kontrollin. Mund t\u00eb themi t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb shihet duke qar\u00eb ose duke u kujdesur, ai mund t\u00eb konsiderohet i dob\u00ebt, por n\u00ebse nj\u00eb grua \u00ebsht\u00eb emocionale ose e kujdesshme, kjo konsiderohet e mir\u00eb ose si m\u00ebnyra se si ajo supozohet t\u00eb veproj\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cMaskuliniteti toksik\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Burr\u00ebria toksike \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar si nj\u00eb grup sjelljesh dhe besimesh, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb shtypjen e emocioneve, ruajtjen e nj\u00eb pamjeje t\u00eb fort\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe dhun\u00ebn si nj\u00eb tregues t\u00eb fuqis\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky kusht\u00ebzim shoq\u00ebror mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb djemt\u00eb dhe burrat t\u00eb qeshin kur duan t\u00eb qajn\u00eb, t\u00eb zhvler\u00ebsojn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjet e tyre dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ndaj ngjarjeve dhe rrethanave ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin dhun\u00eb n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb i ka zem\u00ebruar, m\u00ebrzitur ose frik\u00ebsuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cbsht\u00eb mjaft e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb tregohemi t\u00eb qart\u00eb, ky shkrim nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sulm ndaj burrave, apo maskulinitetit, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb as akuz\u00eb q\u00eb burrat jan\u00eb toksik\u00eb. P\u00ebrkundrazi, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb luan nj\u00eb rol ky\u00e7 n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor t\u00eb burrave dhe citohet si nj\u00eb nga arsyet kryesore p\u00ebr pranin\u00eb e lart\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasjeve tek t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb, si dhe luan rol n\u00eb krijimin dhe ruajtjen e stereotipeve t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb po aq t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr burrat dhe sa p\u00ebr grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Duhet nj\u00eb ndryshim i madh n\u00eb sjellje p\u00ebr t\u00eb hequr stereotipet me baz\u00eb gjinore, duke filluar q\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria. Nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb krijimi i vet\u00ebdijes qysh n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb mos kufizohen n\u00eb role t\u00eb caktuara gjinore. Kjo do t\u00eb ndihmoj krijimin e barazis\u00eb mes t\u00eb gjitha gjinive dhe p\u00ebr balancimin e hendekut gjinor. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb mund\u00ebsi shum\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb personat n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb barabart\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do aspekt t\u00eb fushave shoq\u00ebrore, ekonomike, politike dhe mjedisore p\u00ebr mir\u00ebqenien e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n