Nuk dua t\u00eb m\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se si n\u00eb klube m\u00eb duhet ta ruaj pijen time t\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebn ose se si duhet t\u00eb sigurohem q\u00eb dera e hyrjes duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mbyllur. Nuk dua t\u00eb jetoj n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ku grat\u00eb si Miya Marcano jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb frik\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ja ku jemi p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. \u00c7do her\u00eb kur nj\u00eb burr\u00eb vran\u00eb nj\u00eb grua, diskutimi publik rikthehet tek \u00e7\u00ebshtja se si grat\u00eb duhet ta mbrojn\u00eb veten nga burrat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Komisioneri i policis\u00eb britanike tha se Sarah Everard, gruaja angleze e vrar\u00eb nga oficeri i policis\u00eb n\u00eb muajin mars, \u201ckurr\u00eb nuk duhej t\u2019i ishte n\u00ebnshtruar\u201d arrestimit t\u00eb rrem\u00eb i cili e \u00e7oi n\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunimin dhe vrasjen e saj. Ai gjithashtu shtoi se \u201cgrat\u00eb, para se gjithash, duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mprehta kur jan\u00eb rrug\u00ebve edhe kur arrestohen edhe kur nuk arrestohen\u201d. Vras\u00ebsi i Sara Everard, Wayne Couzens kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb arrest t\u00eb rrem\u00eb ndaj Sara-s, gjoja se ajo kishte shkelur rregullat p\u00ebr Covid-19 n\u00eb Lond\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb Florida, policia gjeti trupin e nj\u00eb gruaje t\u00eb zhdukur. Ajo ishte Miya Marcano, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn Armando Manuel Caballero e ngacmonte \u00e7do dit\u00eb. Ai ishte nj\u00eb punonj\u00ebs i mir\u00ebmbajtjes n\u00eb nd\u00ebrtes\u00ebn e saj, ku faktet tregonin se ajo e kishte refuzuar at\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb para se t\u00eb zhdukej. Policia \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e sigurt q\u00eb Caballero, i cili vrau veten para se t\u00eb arrestohej, ishte p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr vdekjen e Marcano-s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrderisa lajmi p\u00ebr zhdukjen dhe vdekjen e Marcano-s u p\u00ebrhap me shpejt\u00ebsi, lajmet e tjera n\u00eb rrjetet sociale tregonin se si grat\u00eb e tjera mund t\u00eb parandalonin q\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb t\u00eb mos u ndodh\u00eb atyre. Un\u00eb e kuptoj faktin q\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb nuk t\u00eb ofron siguri, instinkti p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar vet\u00ebmbrojtje \u00ebsht\u00eb i mir\u00ebqen\u00eb, por fokusimi n\u00eb veprimet e grave m\u00eb shum\u00eb se sa tek dhunuesi, relativizon \u00e7\u00ebshtjen dhe p\u00ebrjet\u00ebson iden\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre me sjelljet e tyre mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb ndikim mbi veprimet e burrave t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gjithashtu m\u00ebnyra se si dhuna n\u00eb baz\u00eb gjinore adresohet \u00ebsht\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht e padobishme. Statistikat tregojn\u00eb se nj\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do gjasht\u00eb gra ka qen\u00eb viktim\u00eb e p\u00ebrdhunimit ose tentim-p\u00ebrdhunimit n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e saj dhe n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, grat\u00eb e varfra, trans dhe t\u00eb dalluara mbi rac\u00ebn jan\u00eb prekur n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb disproporcionale nga kjo. Pothuajse 85% e grave indiane amerikane dhe amtare t\u00eb Alask\u00ebs kan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar nj\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale, p\u00ebrndjekjes ose agresionit nga nj\u00eb partner intim gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. N\u00eb vitin 2015, grat\u00eb zezake kishin dy her\u00eb e gjysm\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb vriteshin nga burrat sesa grat\u00eb e bardha.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb cik\u00ebl shum\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyes por i parashikuesh\u00ebm, sepse \u00e7do gruaje i m\u00ebsohet se ka shum\u00eb pak m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndaluar nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i sulmoj\u00eb n\u00ebse ve\u00e7 se ai ka vendosur ta b\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb, sepse jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebn gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb nga burrat. Shoq\u00ebria i infantilizon burrat, duke i trajtuar q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re si viktima t\u00eb nxitjeve t\u00eb tyre t\u00eb pakontrolluara, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr u thon\u00eb vazhdimisht grave t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mprehta, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos b\u00ebhen viktima.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se nd\u00ebrhyrja parandaluese duhet t\u00eb filloj\u00eb me burrat dhe djemt\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e vetme p\u00ebr ta parandaluar dhun\u00ebn nga burrat. Sistemi i drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb penale d\u00ebshton aq shpesh grat\u00eb sa q\u00eb nuk konsiderohet si parandalues i dhun\u00ebs dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye shum\u00eb gra hezitojn\u00eb t\u00eb raportojn\u00eb faktin se jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb nga burrave. Sinqerisht, momenti q\u00eb policia shfaqet p\u00ebr t\u00eb arrestuar nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb ve\u00e7 se e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb d\u00ebmin, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb element tjet\u00ebr shqet\u00ebsues p\u00ebr k\u00ebto raste jan\u00eb m\u00ebnyrat se si mediat dhe shoq\u00ebria priren t\u2019i shtremb\u00ebrojn\u00eb historit\u00eb, si rasti p\u00ebr vrasjen e Marcanos-s, n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin publikimet e shumta i referoheshin Caballero-s si \u201ci refuzuar\u201d dhe e quanin ngacmimin e tij ndaj Miya Marcano-s si \u201caventur\u00eb romantike\u201d. Nuk ka asgj\u00eb romantike t\u00eb ndiqesh nga dikush q\u00eb ka \u00e7el\u00ebsin e banes\u00ebs t\u00ebnde dhe q\u00eb nuk ka asnj\u00eb respekt p\u00ebr kufijt\u00eb e tu. Grat\u00eb e kan\u00eb potencuar k\u00ebt\u00eb pa pushim, por n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre shoq\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e prir\u00eb t\u00eb empatizoj\u00eb me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb “marr\u00eb vajz\u00ebn” sesa t\u00eb em\u00ebroj\u00eb si di\u00e7ka q\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb – p\u00ebrndjekje dhe ngacmim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk dua t\u2019i m\u00ebsoj trik\u00ebt se si ta mbroj pijen time n\u00eb klube, ose si t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor nj\u00eb thik\u00eb t\u00eb maskuar n\u00eb buz\u00ebkuqin tim, ose t\u00eb blej\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme p\u00ebr ta siguruar der\u00ebn e dhom\u00ebs sime.\u00a0 Dua t\u00eb jetoj n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ku grat\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb frik\u00eb t\u00eb vazhdueshme p\u00ebr sigurin\u00eb e tyre dhe ku un\u00eb mund ta refuzoj lirsh\u00ebm nj\u00eb burr\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos vritem p\u00ebr veprimet e mia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tayo Bero<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E p\u00ebrktheu: Medin\u00eb Dauti<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tekstin origjinal mund ta gjeni n\u00eb: https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/commentisfree\/2021\/oct\/06\/society-telling-women-must-protect-ourselves-violent-men?fbclid=IwAR3Xjdk9nK8utbeTRSkALM-t1w4nsO1JPF0ntJ5iiOXoTlSF-2wvo3tV2QE<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":2954,"template":"","class_list":["post-2953","lexo-post","type-lexo-post","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n