N\u00eb mesjet\u00eb, para se nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb b\u00ebhej nuse e mbret\u00ebris\u00eb duhej t\u00eb kontrollohej para nat\u00ebs s\u00eb dasm\u00ebs n\u00ebse ajo ishte e virgj\u00ebr apo jo. \u201cHimeni \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb membran\u00eb jo krejt\u00ebsisht pa gjak\u201d, shkroi Louise Bourgeois, nj\u00eb obstet\u00ebre e shekullit t\u00eb 17-t\u00eb. \u201cN\u00eb mes ka nj\u00eb vrim\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn zbrazet gjaku menstrual. N\u00eb momentin e penetrimit t\u00eb par\u00eb, himeni prishet, gj\u00eb q\u00eb shkakton pak dhimbje dhe rrjedhje t\u00eb gjakut, kjo tregon se nj\u00eb grua \u00ebsht\u00eb e virgj\u00ebr\u201d, vazhdonte ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb realitet, shum\u00eb vajza lindin pa himen, nd\u00ebrsa t\u00eb tjerat e grisin membran\u00ebn shum\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, m\u00eb s\u00eb shpeshti duke ushtruar. Megjithat\u00eb, k\u00ebrkesa p\u00ebr testimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb – zakonisht, nj\u00eb ekzaminim gjinekologjik n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin mjeku kontrollon se a \u00ebsht\u00eb himeni \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb zakon q\u00eb vazhdon edhe n\u00eb koh\u00ebt e sotme. N\u00eb vitin 1979, qeveria britanike i b\u00ebri nj\u00eb ekzaminim t\u00eb till\u00eb nj\u00eb gruaje indiane 35-vje\u00e7are me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb \u2018t\u00eb shihte n\u00ebse ishte n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nj\u00eb virgj\u00ebresh\u00eb e mir\u00ebfillt\u00eb\u2019, meqen\u00ebse ajo kishte udh\u00ebtuar n\u00eb Lond\u00ebr p\u00ebr t’u martuar. (The Guardian m\u00eb von\u00eb zbuloi se zyrtar\u00ebt e imigracionit i n\u00ebnshtruan m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 80 gra n\u00eb teste t\u00eb tilla nga viti 1976 deri n\u00eb 1979.) Nd\u00ebrsa autoritetet egjiptiane p\u00ebrdor\u00ebn pretekstin e inspektimeve t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb sulmuar protestat e grave gjat\u00eb pranver\u00ebs se vitit 2011 (ku ndodh\u00ebn protesta t\u00eb shumta kund\u00ebr qeveris\u00eb arabe) dhe deri n\u00eb korrik t\u00eb vitit 2021 ku ushtria indoneziane kryente rregullisht inspektime t\u00eb tilla, jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr rekrutet gra, por edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb fejuarat e ushtar\u00ebve burra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sot, kjo praktik\u00eb vazhdon n\u00eb mesin e disa komuniteteve myslimane n\u00eb Evrop\u00eb, Azi dhe Afrik\u00eb, rom\u00ebt n\u00eb Evrop\u00eb dhe disa komunitete ortodokse hebreje dhe fundamentalisht t\u00eb krishtera n\u00eb Shtetet e Bashkuara. Dy vite m\u00eb par\u00eb, reperi amerikan T.I. (Clifford Joseph Harris Jr.) pohoi se ai \u00e7do vit e \u00e7onte vajz\u00ebn e tij n\u00eb kontroll tek gjinekologu p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebrtetuar \u2018virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb\u2019 e saj. \u201cPo, un\u00eb shkoj me t\u00eb… q\u00eb nga dit\u00eblindja e saj e 18-t\u00eb, himeni i saj \u00ebsht\u00eb ende i paprekur\u201d, tha ai. Nd\u00ebrsa me von\u00eb ai tha se kjo histori ishte b\u00ebr\u00eb sensacion, sepse ai nuk kishte qen\u00eb kurr\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn kur u b\u00eb ekzaminimi dhe se vajza e tij nuk kishte asnj\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtim p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, vajza e tij Deyjah Harris, tha se ndjente se “nuk mund t\u00eb thoshte jo”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vjesht\u00ebn e vitit t\u00eb kaluar, Britania ishte b\u00ebr\u00eb gati t\u00eb ndaloj\u00eb testet e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb dhe po konsideronte ndalimin e operacionit p\u00ebr riparimin e himenit. Kjo do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb fitore mbres\u00ebl\u00ebn\u00ebse, sepse n\u00eb nj\u00eb epok\u00eb q\u00eb i jep prioritet \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve romanstizuese dhe sensacionale, meqen\u00ebse feministet e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb interesin n\u00eb fushatat t\u00eb ngadalta kund\u00ebr traditave t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme dhe patriarkale. (Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz supozojn\u00eb se nj\u00eb praktik\u00eb q\u00eb ting\u00ebllon si kjo mesjetare duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb hequr deri tani.) Nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikim tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb se testi i virgj\u00ebris\u00eb dhe operacioni i riparimit t\u00eb himenit praktikohen kryesisht nga an\u00ebtar\u00eb t\u00eb pakicave fetare dhe etnike, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn shum\u00eb liberal\u00eb t\u00eb frustruar n\u00eb kritikimin e atyre q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebto procedura. Mbrojt\u00ebsve t\u00eb t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb grave u \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur gjithashtu t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj spinazhi tin\u00ebzar politik. Praktikuesit e testimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb dhe kirurgjis\u00eb s\u00eb riparimit t\u00eb himenit jan\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur t’i riem\u00ebrojn\u00eb ato n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb neutrale dhe pozitive: shum\u00eb faqe mjek\u00ebsore n\u00eb internet i paraqesin k\u00ebto procedura jo si metoda patriarkale t\u00eb vjetruara p\u00ebr zbatimin e past\u00ebrtis\u00eb, por si forma fuqizuese – rinovuese t\u00eb kujdesit ndaj vetes, duke i krahasuar me mbushjen e buz\u00ebve ose ngritjen e fytyr\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Testet e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm degraduese por jan\u00eb gjithashtu t\u00eb padobishme. Organizata Bot\u00ebrore e Sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsis\u00eb e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb: \u201cNuk ka asnj\u00eb merit\u00eb shkencore apo indikacion klinik p\u00ebr \u201ctestimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb\u201d apo \u201cekzaminimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb\u201d. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 inspektimeve t\u00eb himenit, metoda tjet\u00ebr kryesore \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ctesti me dy gishta\u201d, e cila sh\u00ebrben p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar ngusht\u00ebsin\u00eb e vagin\u00ebs. K\u00ebto teste jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb invazive dhe nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht t\u00eb pakuptimta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye qeveria e kryeministrit britanik Boris Johnson koh\u00ebt e fundit u angazhua p\u00ebr t’i b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb paligjshme testet e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. Richard Holden, an\u00ebtar i ri konservator i Parlamentit, ka propozuar nj\u00eb amendament q\u00eb kriminalizon k\u00ebt\u00eb praktik\u00eb. Ai gjeti 21 klinika q\u00eb ofronin k\u00ebt\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim n\u00eb Mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb e Bashkuar, duke paguar deri n\u00eb 300 \u00a3 (358 euro) p\u00ebr nj\u00eb certifikat\u00eb virgj\u00ebrie. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, n\u00eb Shtetet e Bashkuara, nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2016 me 300 gjinekolog\u00eb zbuloi se 10.1% kishin pasur t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb pacient q\u00eb kishte k\u00ebrkuar nj\u00eb test virgj\u00ebrie n\u00eb 12 muajt e fundit dhe 3.5% kishin kryer nj\u00eb test t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00ebher\u00eb e nj\u00eb koh\u00eb, familjet k\u00ebrkonin t\u00eb shihnin \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00ebt e njollosur me gjak n\u00eb m\u00ebngjesin pas dasm\u00ebs, ose t\u00eb d\u00ebrgonin vajzat tek nj\u00eb mami p\u00ebr testimin me dy gishta. Diana Nammi, themeluesja e Organizat\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb Drejtat e Grave Iraniane dhe Kurde me qend\u00ebr n\u00eb Lond\u00ebr (IKWRO), kishte th\u00ebn\u00eb se tani \u201ckjo praktik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u2018modernizuar\u2019 duke i d\u00ebrguar grat\u00eb p\u00ebr tu kontrolluar para nat\u00ebs s\u00eb martes\u00ebs n\u00eb klinik\u00eb\u201d. Aneeta Prem, themeluesja e grupit p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtat e grave Freedom Charity, m\u00eb tha se testimi i virgj\u00ebris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pjes\u00eb e \u201cpaket\u00ebs\u201d q\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet nga familja: \u201cNuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm fotografia, edukimi, gatimi apo pastrimi, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb paket\u00eb hyn edhe prova e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ani pse qeveria britanike duket e gatshme t\u00eb ndaloj\u00eb testimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb, p\u00ebrgjigja e saj ndaj propozimit t\u00eb Holden p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndaluar gjithashtu t\u00eb ashtuquajturat operacione t\u00eb riparimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb ka qen\u00eb m\u00eb pasive. Ashtu si testimi i virgj\u00ebris\u00eb, himenoplastika \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pseudoshkenc\u00eb e past\u00ebr: Nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2012 nga studiues holandez\u00eb zbuloi se 17 nga 19 gra q\u00eb kishin b\u00ebr\u00eb operacionin nuk kishin pasur gjakderdhje nat\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb dasm\u00ebs. Shpesh ka ndodhur q\u00eb nuk ka pasur mbetje t\u00eb himenit mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u2019u qepur, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb kirurg\u00ebt krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb himen artificial duke p\u00ebrdorur l\u00ebkur\u00ebn e murit vaginal. Himenoplastika \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb e gjymtimit gjenital fem\u00ebror, tha Holden. “Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb praktik\u00eb mjek\u00ebsore mashtruese. Ne nuk do t\u2019i lejonim njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb thoshin se ekzistojn\u00eb elf q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb flok\u00ebt e tyre! Meqen\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb demantuar nga shkenca mjek\u00ebsore, pse dreqin po e lejojm\u00eb ende at\u00eb?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E megjithat\u00eb operacionet estetike jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t’u ndaluar n\u00ebse ekziston k\u00ebrkesa p\u00ebr to. Himenoplastika \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb procedur\u00eb e reklamuar gjer\u00ebsisht n\u00eb Amerik\u00ebn e Veriut dhe Evrop\u00eb, e kryer zakonisht si operacion ambulator n\u00ebn anestezi lokale ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme me nj\u00eb kosto prej rreth 4000 dollar\u00eb. Ai kryhet nga m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb duzin\u00eb klinika n\u00eb Harley Street t\u00eb Londr\u00ebs, sht\u00ebpia tradicionale e mjek\u00ebsis\u00eb britanike, si dhe nga kirurg\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb Shtetet e Bashkuara dhe Kanada.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mjek\u00ebt q\u00eb reklamojn\u00eb procedur\u00ebn (ose mbrojn\u00eb operacionin) p\u00ebrdorin thirrjet feministe t\u00eb zgjedhjes dhe fuqizimit. “Duke ofruar k\u00ebt\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim, ne hapim der\u00ebn p\u00ebr grat\u00eb q\u00eb duan t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb trajtim dhe u japim atyre mund\u00ebsi. Nuk varet nga un\u00eb apo nga qeveria, opsioni \u00ebsht\u00eb i grave\u201d, tha nj\u00eb mjek n\u00eb Britani p\u00ebr Sky News k\u00ebt\u00eb ver\u00eb. Dy vjet m\u00eb par\u00eb, nj\u00eb mjek nga Nju Jorku q\u00eb kryen himenoplastik\u00eb \u2013 duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb vajzat n\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7 me p\u00eblqimin e prind\u00ebrve \u2013 i tha nj\u00eb intervistuesi se zyra e tij ishte nj\u00eb \u201chap\u00ebsir\u00eb e sigurt\u201d p\u00ebr vajzat dhe grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Megjithat\u00eb, shum\u00eb nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb himenoplastik\u00eb e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb sepse kan\u00eb frik\u00eb p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e tyre. N\u00eb vitin 2002, 16-vje\u00e7arja Heshu Jones, nga komuniteti kurd n\u00eb Londr\u00ebn Per\u00ebndimore, u vra nga babai i saj pasi dyshohet se d\u00ebshtoi n\u00eb testin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. Babai i saj i preu fytin dhe m\u00eb pas tentoi p\u00ebr t\u00eb vrar\u00eb veten. Vrasja ishte e para q\u00eb u njoh si nj\u00eb “vrasje nderi” n\u00eb Britani.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q\u00eb nga fillimi i pandemis\u00eb s\u00eb koronavirusit, Aneeta Prem ka v\u00ebrejtur nj\u00eb rritje prej 40% t\u00eb thirrjeve n\u00eb linj\u00ebn telefonike Freedom Charity, pasi mbylljet e shkollave dhe bizneseve kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb paarritshme burimet e tjera t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetjes emocionale. Disa nga grat\u00eb telefonojn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar ndihm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbledhur parat\u00eb p\u00ebr kirurgji. “Nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb na k\u00ebrkoi t\u00eb paguanim himenoplastik\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb,” tha ajo. Kur Prem refuzoi, vajza i tha se do t\u00eb duhej t\u00eb b\u00ebhej prostitut\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbledhur parat\u00eb, sepse familja e t\u00eb fejuarit do ta vriste n\u00ebse do t\u00eb zbulonte se ajo nuk ishte e virgj\u00ebr. “Un\u00eb njoh vajza q\u00eb kan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb nat\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb dasm\u00ebs se do t\u00eb marrin gjak t\u00eb rrem\u00eb, ose do t\u00eb marrin nj\u00eb brisk n\u00eb shtrat me vete, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjakosur diku.” Amazon kishte shitur \u201cpilula t\u00eb himenit artificial\u201d t\u00eb cilat pas nj\u00eb proteste t\u00eb mbajtur n\u00eb Indi kund\u00ebr tyre, i hoqi pilulat nga shitja n\u00eb disa vende. Megjithat\u00eb, shit\u00ebsit e pal\u00ebve t\u00eb treta ende i shesin k\u00ebto pilula t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebrmbajn\u00eb gjak t\u00eb rrem\u00eb. Prem beson se vet\u00ebm sanksionimi i k\u00ebtyre veprimeve mund t\u00eb frenoj\u00eb obsesionin me virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb i cili po nxit dhun\u00ebn e bazuar n\u00eb nder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kund\u00ebrshtar\u00ebt e testimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb dhe riparimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb n\u00eb Mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb e Bashkuar p\u00ebrballen me dy pengesa. E para \u00ebsht\u00eb frika se \u00e7do ndalim do rezultoj\u00eb me b\u00ebrjen e tij n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ilegale ose, m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa, jasht\u00eb vendit. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse avokuesit e t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb grave duan q\u00eb legjislacioni t\u00eb kriminalizoj edhe d\u00ebrgimin e vajzave jasht\u00eb shtetit p\u00ebr operacion. Diana Nammi nga IKWRO, \u00ebsht\u00eb e bindur qe e vetmja zgjidhje p\u00ebr shkat\u00ebrrimin e kultit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kriminalizimi i tij \u201cDuhet ta fshijm\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb histori\u201d, tha ajo. Organizata e saj e sheh testimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb si pjes\u00eb t\u00eb fiksimit m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb kulturor mbi “nderin”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Menaxherja e fushatave n\u00eb IKWRO \u00ebsht\u00eb 33-vje\u00e7arja Payzee Mahmod, motra e s\u00eb cil\u00ebs, Banaz, u vra n\u00eb Lond\u00ebr me urdh\u00ebr t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb saj, sepse ajo ishte larguar nga martesa e saj abuzive dhe e detyruar. (Babai dhe xhaxhai i Mahmodit u d\u00ebnuan p\u00ebr vrasjen n\u00eb vitin 2007, s\u00eb bashku me tre burra t\u00eb tjer\u00eb.) E rritur n\u00eb Iran, m\u00eb tha Mahmodi, ajo ishte paralajm\u00ebruar t\u00eb mos luante shum\u00eb, ose t\u00eb ngiste bi\u00e7iklet\u00eb, apo edhe t\u00eb ulej n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb gabuar sepse ajo mund t\u00eb grisi aksidentalisht himenin e saj. Ajo tani b\u00ebn fushata kund\u00ebr martes\u00ebs s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe martes\u00ebs s\u00eb detyruar, si dhe vrasjeve p\u00ebr nder dhe testimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pengesa e dyt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb frika liberale p\u00ebr t’u dh\u00ebn\u00eb municion racist\u00ebve dhe ksenofob\u00ebve, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt komentojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb oportuniste martes\u00ebn e detyruar, gjymtimin gjenital t\u00eb femrave dhe praktika t\u00eb tjera p\u00ebr t\u00eb forcuar nj\u00eb narrativ\u00eb t\u00eb ep\u00ebrsis\u00eb s\u00eb bardh\u00eb, per\u00ebndimore. \u201cKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dhun\u00eb ndaj grave,\u201d tha Nammi. \u201cNuk duhet respektuar apo toleruar. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb krim.\u201d Ajo v\u00ebren se praktika nuk kufizohet vet\u00ebm n\u00eb komunitetet myslimane, por kryhet edhe nga disa hebrenj dhe t\u00eb krishter\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Testimi i virgj\u00ebris\u00eb nuk ka vend n\u00eb bot\u00ebn moderne. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb dhune q\u00eb normalizon dhun\u00ebn e m\u00ebtejshme ndaj grave duke mb\u00ebshtetur iden\u00eb se sjellja seksuale \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e reputacionit familjar ose e debatit publik. Kirurgjia p\u00ebr riparimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb form\u00eb dhune. Kirurg\u00ebt nuk duhet t\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzojn\u00eb procedurat qesharake pa p\u00ebrfitime mjek\u00ebsore, vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr p\u00ebrfitime personale. Nuk ka asgj\u00eb paragjykuese p\u00ebr kund\u00ebrshtimin e t\u00eb dyja praktikave. Koha p\u00ebr t’i ndaluar k\u00ebto praktika ka skaduar moti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n