Analiz\u00eb e librit t\u00eb Laura Bates \u2013 nj\u00eb vler\u00ebsim bind\u00ebs p\u00ebr padrejt\u00ebsit\u00eb gjinore<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr Laura Bates, gjith\u00e7ka filloi me nj\u00eb bizhuteri ari t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e \u00ebma e gjeti n\u00eb ul\u00ebsen e pasagjerit n\u00eb vetur\u00ebn e familjes. Ishte nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb nga gjysh\u00ebrit e saj. E \u00ebma, pas dy vajzash, ishte shp\u00ebrblyer q\u00eb lindi nj\u00eb djal\u00eb. \u201cUn\u00eb jam 5 vje\u00e7e dhe nuk ja kisha iden\u00eb q\u00eb mua tashm\u00eb m\u00eb kishin peshuar, vler\u00ebsuar dhe konsideruar si d\u00ebshtim\u201d, shkruan Bates<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ky incident \u00ebsht\u00eb i pari n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb aktivist\u00ebt dhe shkrimtar\u00ebt feminist e quajn\u00eb \u201clista ime\u201d. Ajo i inkurajon t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb list\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, t\u00eb dokumentojn\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb seksiz\u00ebm, nga parku i loj\u00ebrave deri tek vendi i pun\u00ebs. \u201cDeri kur lash\u00eb universitetin, n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 20 vje\u00e7are, jam ngacmuar seksualisht dhe jam sforcuar t\u00eb shfaqem me pjes\u00ebn e sip\u00ebrme lakuriq n\u00eb nj\u00eb produksion teatri (un\u00eb mbahem si e fort\u00eb, por p\u00ebrjetimi m\u00eb b\u00ebn me lot) dhe dy burra m\u00eb zun\u00eb prit\u00ebn n\u00eb qoshe t\u00eb rrug\u00ebs duke b\u00ebrtitur \u2018Do t\u2019i shqyejm\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebt dhe do ta q*jm\u00eb at\u00eb p*dh\u2019\u201d, shkruan Bates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ndreqeni sistemin, jo grat\u00eb<\/em> \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb theksuar \u201csistemin e nd\u00ebrthurur t\u00eb dominimit i cili definon realitetin ton\u00eb\u201d \u2013 dhe na ndihmon t\u00eb largojm\u00eb mitin se ne grat\u00eb jemi bashk\u00ebfajtore n\u00eb shtypjen ton\u00eb. Mesazhi kryesor i Bates \u00ebsht\u00eb se ekziston nj\u00eb spekt\u00ebr i padrejt\u00ebsis\u00eb gjinore, t\u00eb cilin e ka zhvilluar p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb Projekti Seksizmi i P\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm<\/em>, forumit n\u00eb internet q\u00eb tani ka marr\u00eb 200,000 histori t\u00eb seksizmit dhe misogjinis\u00eb nga e gjith\u00eb bota, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb libra si Girl Up <\/em>dhe Men Who Hate Women<\/em>. Nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb jan\u00eb shakat\u00eb seksiste dhe stereotipat. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr jan\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunimi, abuzimi n\u00eb familje, gjymtimi i gjenitalit fem\u00ebror dhe t\u00eb ashtuquajturat vrasje \u201cnderi\u201d. Diskriminimi am\u00ebsor, ngacmimi seksual n\u00eb pun\u00eb, boshll\u00ebku gjinor i pagave dhe shum\u00eb fenomene t\u00eb tjera q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb diku n\u00eb mes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201c\u00c7ka n\u00ebse s\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb faji i grave p\u00ebr asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej tyre; \u00c7ka n\u00ebse grat\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin rrjet\u00ebzimin, mentorimin, joshjen, k\u00ebrkimin dhe avancimin p\u00ebr t\u2019i ikur seksizmit, sepse ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sistem i krijuar kund\u00ebr tyre? Nj\u00eb sistem q\u00eb ruhet duke u mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb padukshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e vet\u201d, shkruan Bates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bates ushtron teorin\u00eb e saj p\u00ebrmes pes\u00eb zonave kryesore: edukimi, policimi, drejt\u00ebsia penale, media dhe politikat. Fakti q\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb e kat\u00ebrta e kabinetit jan\u00eb gra mund t\u00eb shpjegoj\u00eb arsyen pse n\u00ebnat q\u00eb punonin humb\u00ebn pun\u00ebn e tyre shum\u00eb m\u00eb shpejt\u00eb se baballar\u00ebt gjat\u00eb pandemis\u00eb COVID-19, dhe n\u00ebnat e reja u detyruan t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb lindjet t\u00eb vetme, p\u00ebrderisa lokalet e nat\u00ebs qen\u00eb t\u00eb lejueshme t\u00eb hapen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por, pjes\u00ebt m\u00eb trazuese t\u00eb librit jan\u00eb mbi dhun\u00ebn e burrave dhe barr\u00ebn e grave p\u00ebr ta mbajtur vet\u00ebn t\u00eb sigurta. Kur nj\u00eb grua vritet, shpeshher\u00eb quhet si \u201crast i izoluar\u201d, e prap\u00ebseprap\u00eb n\u00eb Mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb e Bashkuar \u00e7do tre dit\u00eb nj\u00eb grua vritet nga nj\u00eb burr\u00eb. Bates \u00ebsht\u00eb e ashp\u00ebr ndaj mb\u00ebshtetjes s\u00eb Priti Patelit p\u00ebr nj\u00eb aplikacion q\u00eb regjistron l\u00ebvizjet e grave, mbi gjith\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e tjera q\u00eb ato sugjerohen t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb. \u201cSi shoq\u00ebri nuk mund t\u00eb ndalojm\u00eb s\u00eb gjeturi arsyetime p\u00ebr dhun\u00ebn e burrave\u201d, shkruan ajo. Pavar\u00ebsisht rritjes s\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb kampanjave feministe, akuzat p\u00ebr rastet e dhun\u00ebs tani jan\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebrgjysm\u00eb n\u00eb krahasim me vitet 2015-16. Shum\u00eb shpesh, vendimet n\u00ebse duhet proceduar n\u00eb gjyq p\u00ebr rastet e dhun\u00ebs varen nga ajo se n\u00ebse gruaja i p\u00ebrshtatet profilit social t\u00eb \u201cviktim\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur\u201d, p.sh. ato q\u00eb jan\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb k\u00ebndshme, t\u00eb bukura, t\u00eb pafajshme, t\u00eb kujdesshme dhe nuk devijojn\u00eb nga rruga apo nuk flasin me ujkun<\/em>\u201d. Dhe sigurisht, m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja, profilin e t\u00eb qenit e bardh\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ndreqe Sistemin<\/em> p\u00ebrmban shum\u00eb sugjerime p\u00ebr reforma, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb aplikacionet q\u00eb gjurmojn\u00eb l\u00ebvizjet e burrave t\u00eb d\u00ebnuar p\u00ebr krime kund\u00ebr grave dhe ndalimin e marr\u00ebveshjeve t\u00eb moszbulimit q\u00eb kan\u00eb bllokuar pun\u00ebtoret q\u00eb kan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar diskriminim t\u00eb am\u00ebsis\u00eb. Bates gjithashtu na rikujton q\u00eb n\u00ebse duam ta trajtojm\u00eb shtypjen nga nj\u00eb rrafsh, duhet t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr mbivendosjen me rrafshet e tjera. Ndon\u00ebse grat\u00eb me ngjyr\u00eb kan\u00eb kat\u00ebr her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb vdesin gjat\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb ose lindjes n\u00eb Mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb e Bashkuar, ato rrall\u00eb e shohin veten t\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsuara n\u00eb fushatat t\u00eb orientuara kah n\u00ebnat n\u00eb pritje. Grat\u00eb me aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb kufizuara kan\u00eb dy her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb vuajn\u00eb nga abuzimi n\u00eb familje, por vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb n\u00eb dhjet\u00eb hap\u00ebsira t\u00eb strehimoreve \u00ebsht\u00eb e qasshme p\u00ebr to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por Bates \u00ebsht\u00eb e bindur q\u00eb nuk i takon asaj t\u00eb gjej\u00eb zgjidhjet. Qindra t\u00eb tilla tashm\u00eb ve\u00e7 ekzistojn\u00eb, t\u00eb injoruara dhe t\u00eb pap\u00ebrdorura n\u00eb raporte dhe materiale t\u00eb fushatave t\u00eb organizatave feministe dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtat civile. Kjo gj\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebri t\u00eb mendoj: sa burra do ta lexojn\u00eb Ndreqe Sistemin<\/em>? Vitet e fundit, librat e till\u00eb si Pse m\u00eb nuk ju flas t\u00eb bardh\u00ebve mbi rac\u00ebn dhe brisht\u00ebsin\u00eb e bardh\u00eb<\/em> jan\u00eb bler\u00eb n\u00eb numra masiv nga vet\u00eb t\u00eb bardh\u00ebt. Sepse, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb Bates \u201cnuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rr\u00ebmuja jon\u00eb ta pastrojm\u00eb\u201d. Mjerisht, dyshoj q\u00eb bumi i botimeve feministe ka shp\u00ebrfillur shumic\u00ebn e lexuesve burra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n