Grat\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb pa paguar \u2013 kjo r\u00ebndon sh\u00ebndetin mendor t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kam qen\u00eb duke vuajtur se si t’i p\u00ebrgjigjem nj\u00eb emaili p\u00ebr 48 or\u00ebt e fundit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj me \u00e7\u00ebshtje mjek\u00ebsore, afat pune, ndonj\u00eb lajm t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm, detyra t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb zhgropimin e prodhuesit t\u00eb friksh\u00ebm t\u00eb etiketave ose hyrjen n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb portal bizantin n\u00eb internet – t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto jan\u00eb t\u00eb ngujuara domosdoshm\u00ebrisht n\u00eb inbox-in tim. Ishte thjesht nj\u00eb sugjerim krejt\u00ebsisht neutral, nga nj\u00eb kolege e nj\u00eb shoqeje t\u00eb kolegjit, e cila d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb projekt p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin po punon dhe t\u00eb cilin un\u00eb mezi pres ta takoj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cA d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb t\u00eb takohemi jav\u00ebs tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb \u201chappy hour\u201d??\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Epo, po. Do t\u00eb doja shum\u00eb. Un\u00eb, me nj\u00eb martini, nj\u00eb pal\u00eb pantallona t\u00eb rehatshme, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jasht\u00eb n\u00eb muzg? Juhuu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por m\u00eb pas truri im p\u00ebrjeton nj\u00eb shky\u00e7je te shkurt\u00ebr, sepse ora ime e lumturis\u00eb (happy hour) e gjasht\u00eb viteve t\u00eb fundit \u2013 e cila, po, \u00ebsht\u00eb e lumtur, por \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe kaotike \u2013 p\u00ebrfshin heqjen e sosit t\u00eb baba ganoushit nga flok\u00ebt e foshnj\u00ebs sime, shtyrjen e salmonit n\u00eb goj\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tim trevje\u00e7are nd\u00ebrsa ajo ulet n\u00ebn tavolin\u00eb duke ndotur dyshemen\u00eb n\u00eb detaje, dhe duke d\u00ebgjuar albumin ushtarak t\u00eb Strauss\u2019s Radetzky March shkak kjo nga praktika e pianos nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria ime n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb them \u2018po, sigurisht\u2019, un\u00eb dit\u00ebt e fundit i kam kaluar duke b\u00ebr\u00eb kalkulime mendore se n\u00ebse java e ardhshme n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn burri im do t\u00eb udh\u00ebtoj jasht\u00eb vendi, m\u00eb lejon q\u00eb t\u00eb pastrohem dhe t\u00eb flej\u00eb rehat; n\u00ebse ky \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti q\u00eb mund t\u00eb heq\u00eb fash\u00ebn p\u00ebr tu th\u00ebn\u00eb po eventeve sociale, ngjarje k\u00ebto t\u00eb cilat mund t\u00eb m\u00eb \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb zhvillime t\u00eb m\u00ebtutjeshme t\u00eb pun\u00ebs; n\u00ebse k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb mund ta shpenzoj m\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb renditur rrobat; ose n\u00ebse orari i n\u00ebn\u00ebs sime p\u00ebrshtatet q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb shtes\u00eb p\u00ebr mua.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cKoha \u00ebsht\u00eb burim i sh\u00ebndetit,” m\u00eb tha Jennifer Ervin p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb nj\u00eb takimi ne zoom. \u201cEkziston kjo barr\u00eb e dyfisht\u00eb p\u00ebr kaq shum\u00eb gra \u2013 t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb fuqis\u00eb pun\u00ebtore t\u00eb paguar, dhe m\u00eb pas, pasi t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb kjo pun\u00eb, sasi t\u00eb m\u00ebdha t\u00eb pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes dhe n\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ervini \u00ebsht\u00eb studiuesja kryesore e nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga Universiteti i Melburnit, i botuar n\u00eb Lancet n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb k\u00ebtij muaji, me titull “Dallimet gjinore n\u00eb lidhjen midis pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar dhe sh\u00ebndetit mendor tek t\u00eb rriturit e pun\u00ebsuar: nj\u00eb rishikim sistematik”, q\u00eb besohet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i pari i k\u00ebtij lloji q\u00eb shqyrton nd\u00ebrthurjen gjinore t\u00eb tri sferave \u2013 pun\u00ebs, sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe sh\u00ebndetit mendor \u2013 q\u00eb ndodh t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimeve t\u00eb mia t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pas rishikimit t\u00eb 14 studimeve \u2013 disa prej t\u00eb cilave ekzaminuan koh\u00ebn e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, disa kujdesin p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt pun\u00ebn e papaguar \u2013 raporti i Ervinit arrin n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se \u201cpabarazit\u00eb n\u00eb ndarjen e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar i ekspozojn\u00eb grat\u00eb ndaj rrezikut m\u00eb t\u00eb madh t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor m\u00eb t\u00eb dob\u00ebt sesa burrat\u201d, si rezultat \u201ci ashtu quajturi konflikti i roleve dhe mbingarkesa e roleve, qe shkaktojn\u00eb stres t\u00eb madh, nd\u00ebrlidhen me ndikimet n\u00eb mir\u00ebqenien psikologjike\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sa m\u00eb t\u00eb nxituar t\u00eb jeni, sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb me presion t\u00eb koh\u00ebs t\u00eb keni, sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb detyra t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb ka t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb t\u00eb stresoheni. Nj\u00eb studim i referuar nga Ervini zbuloi se \u201cnxitimi lidhet me t\u00eb qenit grua, t\u00eb qenit prind i vet\u00ebm, paaft\u00ebsia, mungesa e kontrollit dhe konfliktet pun\u00eb-familje\u201d. Nxitimi lidhet me t\u00eb qenit grua..<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPuna e papaguar\u201d si koncept \u00ebsht\u00eb studiuar n\u00eb literatur\u00ebn sociologjike p\u00ebr mjaft koh\u00eb, zakonisht p\u00ebrmes lenteve t\u00eb drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe barazis\u00eb gjinore, apo pjes\u00ebmarrjes n\u00eb vendin e pun\u00ebs. Anketa Amerikane e P\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb Koh\u00ebs (2018) zbuloi se grat\u00eb e moshave 25-34 vje\u00e7 shpenzojn\u00eb tet\u00eb or\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb papaguar, kundrejt 3,9 or\u00ebve t\u00eb burrave. (P\u00ebr moshat 35-44, kjo shkon deri n\u00eb 5.2 p\u00ebr burrat dhe 8.8 p\u00ebr grat\u00eb.) Megjithat\u00eb, vet\u00ebm koh\u00ebve t\u00eb fundit, m\u00eb tha Ervini, se studiuesit kan\u00eb filluar ta shqyrtojn\u00eb at\u00eb si nj\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktues social t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Covid kontribuoi n\u00eb rritjen e ankthit dhe stresit n\u00eb mbar\u00eb bot\u00ebn, Shoqata Psikologjike Amerikane shpalli nj\u00eb “kriz\u00eb sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore komb\u00ebtare q\u00eb mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb pasoja t\u00eb r\u00ebnda sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore dhe sociale p\u00ebr vitet n\u00eb vijim” n\u00eb Amerik\u00eb. Si ndikohen cop\u00ebzat mendore n\u00eb trurin tim nga muhabeti i vazhduesh\u00ebm, pak i \u00e7mendur i list\u00ebs sime t\u00eb detyrave dhe si ta plot\u00ebsoj at\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb m\u00eb efikase?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E di q\u00eb kur plot\u00ebsoj flet\u00ebt e lejes dhe sigurohem q\u00eb kemi qum\u00ebshtin, caktojm\u00eb takimet me mjekun dhe laj rrobat, kjo e gjitha \u00ebsht\u00eb “pun\u00eb e papaguar”. Por em\u00ebrtimi i paqart\u00eb i termit e b\u00ebn at\u00eb \u2013 t\u00eb huazosh nga ajo \u00e7\u00ebshtje e famshme e gjykat\u00ebs supreme \u2013 t\u00eb ting\u00eblloj\u00eb pak si pornografi. Nd\u00ebrsa refuzimi im p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrgjigjur nj\u00eb emaili nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb me larjen e rrobave, q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb as krejt\u00ebsisht i ndrysh\u00ebm, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu pasoj\u00eb e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar m\u00eb tha Ervin dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb sfid\u00eb n\u00eb vete e studimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cNgarkesa mendore, pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb apo jo n\u00ebn ombrell\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar \u2013 dhe shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz do t\u00eb pajtoheshin se po \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb shpjegohet\u201d, tha ajo. \u201cSi mund t\u00eb matet se \u00e7far\u00eb po ndodh n\u00eb trurin e dikujt? Kur ata jan\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb takim n\u00eb Zoom dhe marrin nj\u00eb telefonat\u00eb nga shkolla e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre dhe mendojn\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb detyra tjera kan\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb at\u00eb nat\u00eb?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb nga pikat m\u00eb me nuanc\u00eb n\u00eb studim ishte se \u201cgrat\u00eb mbartin ngarkes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe mendore t\u00eb pun\u00ebve sht\u00ebpiake; prandaj nj\u00eb or\u00eb e papaguar konsiderohet m\u00eb e dendur dhe m\u00eb me ndikim p\u00ebr grat\u00eb sesa p\u00ebr burrat, dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt e krahasueshme\u201d. Studiuesit parashtrojn\u00eb q\u00eb pjes\u00ebrisht arsyeja q\u00ebndronte se puna e papaguar ka m\u00eb pak gjasa t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebndet m\u00eb t\u00eb dob\u00ebt mendor p\u00ebr burrat, gj\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb llojit t\u00eb detyrave q\u00eb burrat marrin m\u00eb shpesh. Nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb e vler\u00ebsoj sugjerimin e studiuesve se detyrat “jasht\u00eb n\u00eb natyr\u00eb ose p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtje” mund t\u00eb bien n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kov\u00eb t\u00eb pun\u00ebs s\u00eb papaguar m\u00eb pak t\u00eb ndjeshme ndaj koh\u00ebs, ndoshta m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme, burri im, nj\u00eb tip i teknologjis\u00eb, ka po aq gjasa q\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb grabuj\u00eb ose ka\u00e7avid\u00eb sa q\u00eb t\u00eb filloj spontanisht t\u00eb recitoj Chaucer-in nga kujtesa. Por un\u00eb e kuptoj pik\u00ebn e tyre. Dhe kjo ngarkes\u00eb mendore \u2013 konstante, e padukshme, q\u00eb dep\u00ebrton n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e or\u00ebve t\u00eb mia t\u00eb zgjimit dhe gjumit \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn Ervini, vet\u00eb, lufton n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e saj, ku ajo dhe i shoqi po rritin dy vajza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBurri im \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb person me pik\u00ebpamje egalitariane, por kjo jo domosdoshm\u00ebrisht p\u00ebrkthehet n\u00eb detyrat e p\u00ebrditshme,\u201d tha ajo duke shprehur se cila mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb tema e pothuajse \u00e7do bisede q\u00eb b\u00ebn me shoqet. “Dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebviz\u00ebsh pik\u00ebpamjen n\u00eb nj\u00eb nivel individual familjar.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ajo beson fuqish\u00ebm se sa m\u00eb t\u00eb mira t\u00eb jen\u00eb politikat e lejes prind\u00ebrore t\u00eb nj\u00eb vendi t\u00eb caktuar, aq m\u00eb ndikuese dhe pozitive jan\u00eb rezultatet, pasi n\u00ebse nj\u00eb baba kujdeset p\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re, kjo krijon terrenin p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesje m\u00eb von\u00eb. Norvegjia, nj\u00eb vend q\u00eb jep 49 jav\u00eb leje prind\u00ebrore p\u00ebr familjet, me 15 jav\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebna n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb specifike p\u00ebr secilin prind, me modelin “p\u00ebrdoreni ose humbeni”, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vend p\u00ebr t’u imituar, megjith\u00ebse Ervini nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht optimist se pjesa tjet\u00ebr e bot\u00ebs do t\u00eb arrij\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00ebrisht arsyeja pse ajo e konsideroi t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme hulumtimin dhe publikimin e studimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPes\u00ebdhjet\u00eb p\u00ebr qind e popullsis\u00eb po shkon, \u2018OK, ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb lajm p\u00ebr ask\u00ebnd\u2019, tha ajo. “\u00cbsht\u00eb absolutisht p\u00ebrvoja e jetuar e njer\u00ebzve, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme ta tregosh at\u00eb n\u00eb nivel popullsie.” Vet\u00ebm at\u00ebher\u00eb 50% tjet\u00ebr e popullsis\u00eb mund t\u00eb bashkohet me iden\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb rimenduar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb aktive fleksibilitetin e vendit t\u00eb pun\u00ebs, lejen prind\u00ebrore dhe politika t\u00eb tjera miq\u00ebsore ndaj familjes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pas disa dit\u00ebsh t\u00eb tjera duke e shmangur i thash\u00eb po atij takimi t\u00eb Or\u00ebs s\u00eb Lumtur. Do t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb or\u00ebn 16:00 dhe mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshij\u00eb nj\u00eb kafe n\u00eb vend t\u00eb nj\u00eb martini, dhe un\u00eb do t\u00eb kthehem n\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kapur gjysm\u00ebn e mbetur t\u00eb or\u00ebs s\u00eb lumtur t\u00eb familjes sime. Por po e pres me padurim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n