Nasreen Parveen vendosi t\u00eb vraponte p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar jet\u00ebn e saj n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb vendosi t\u00eb mos i jepte fund asaj. Ajo kishte arritur deri te parvazi i dritares s\u00eb lart\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e n\u00ebn\u00ebs s\u00eb saj e i kishte vendosur k\u00ebmb\u00ebt n\u00eb korniz\u00ebn q\u00eb ndante bot\u00ebn pas saj dhe hedhjen n\u00eb aj\u00ebr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebrgatitej p\u00ebr t\u2019u hedhur, ajo shikoi jasht\u00eb, pa nj\u00eb pamje mahnit\u00ebse, q\u00eb i dukej si e ardhmja e paarritshme. E tmerruar Nasreen pa nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs s\u00eb saj duke k\u00ebrcyer nga \u00e7atia e nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpie aty pran\u00eb. Vajza u rr\u00ebzua n\u00eb tok\u00eb, ku shpina e saj u goditi fort p\u00ebrtok\u00eb duke e plagosur r\u00ebnd\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nasreen e kuptoi q\u00eb hedhja n\u00eb aj\u00ebr, r\u00ebnia e dheu, nuk ishin p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Por ajo ishte po aq e sigurt\u00eb se nuk mund t\u00eb jetonte jet\u00ebn t\u00eb cil\u00ebn familja e saj po p\u00ebrpiqej t\u2019ia impononte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nasreen ishte vet\u00ebm 16 vje\u00e7are, por familja e saj tashm\u00eb kishin aranzhuar fejes\u00ebn e saj, me nj\u00eb kush\u00ebri nga ana e babait t\u00eb saj, t\u00eb cilin ajo nuk e kishte takuar para se ta fejonin me t\u00eb. Mavijosjet q\u00eb mbuluan trupin e saj, t\u00eb shkaktuara nga vjeh\u00ebrria e saj e ardhsh\u00ebm, derisa po punonte p\u00ebr ta, si\u00e7 tha ajo, ishin d\u00ebshmi se nj\u00eb e ardhme e mbushur me dhun\u00eb e dhimbje po e priste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr grua e re q\u00eb tentoi t\u2019i merrte jet\u00ebn vetes, n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb Nasreen po mendonte t\u2019a b\u00ebnte vet\u00ebm pak \u00e7aste para se ajo t\u00eb b\u00ebnte p\u00ebrpjekjen e saj, ishte nj\u00eb rast\u00ebsi q\u00eb sfidoi shpjegimin. Por ajo b\u00ebri shum\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa t\u2019i shp\u00ebtonte jet\u00ebn Nasreen-\u00ebs, ajo ofroi nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi jetike q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb arratisej vet\u00ebm disa or\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pjesa e par\u00eb e serive \u201cIndia\u2019s Daughters\u201d (Bijat e Indis\u00eb), e dedikuar nj\u00eb nga \u00e7arjeve m\u00eb t\u00eb thella n\u00eb politik\u00ebn dhe shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e Indis\u00eb: konfliktin mbi t\u00eb ardhmen e grave t\u00eb reja teksa ato synojn\u00eb mund\u00ebsit\u00eb e reja t\u00eb ofruara nga nj\u00eb vend q\u00eb ndryshon me shpejt\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrpjekja e Indis\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngritur miliona njer\u00ebz n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e mesme tani varet pjes\u00ebrisht nga fakti n\u00ebse grat\u00eb e reja do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb shtyjn\u00eb martes\u00ebn p\u00ebr tu pun\u00ebsuar , ose t\u00eb sfidojn\u00eb tradit\u00ebn duke punuar gjat\u00eb martes\u00ebs. Gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb gra indiane po largohen nga fuqia pun\u00ebtore, ose nuk po hyjn\u00eb fare n\u00eb t\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb do t\u00eb kufizohen vet\u00ebm n\u00eb rolet e kujdesit n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, si p\u00ebr t\u00eb ruajtur reputacionin e tyre ashtu edhe q\u00eb puna e tyre e papaguar t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb si nj\u00eb rrjet sigurie sociale dhe ekonomike, i pengojn\u00eb shum\u00eb gra t\u00eb marrin pjes\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn publike. Megjithat\u00eb, edhe ato q\u00eb arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb dalin nga sfera e brendshme shpesh kuptojn\u00eb se ka pak mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb disponueshme p\u00ebr to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nasreen shpresonte p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebrtej fshatit t\u00eb saj n\u00eb shtetin e Bengalit Per\u00ebndimor, ku familja e saj kishte zhvendosur nga New Delhi, pasi babai i saj u largua p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar si pun\u00ebtor n\u00eb Arabin\u00eb Saudite. Ajo kishte punuar fort p\u00ebr t\u2019u shkolluar. Pavar\u00ebsisht kund\u00ebrshtimeve t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe gjyshes s\u00eb saj, ajo u regjistrua vet\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb edhe pse m\u00ebsimet ishin n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn bengale, nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb q\u00eb ajo nuk e fliste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb fshat, Nasreen m\u00ebsonte kurdo q\u00eb mund t\u2019u shmangej detyrave t\u00eb r\u00ebnda t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebrfshinin marrjen e ujit nga nj\u00eb pus i larg\u00ebt, riparimin e mureve me balt\u00eb t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb familjes s\u00eb saj dhe pun\u00ebt e p\u00ebrditshme t\u00eb gatimit dhe pastrimit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebna dhe gjyshja e Nasreen-it prisnin q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb ndiqte rrug\u00ebn e tyre, t\u00eb braktiste shkoll\u00ebn, t\u00eb martohej n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb dhe pastaj t\u00eb kalonte jet\u00ebn n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, e izoluar n\u00eb rolet tradicionale t\u00eb gruas, nuses e n\u00ebn\u00ebs. Nd\u00ebrsa shkollimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin Nasreeni kishte punuar aq shum\u00eb t\u00eb mos vlente asgj\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ajo nuk e konsideronte mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb martohej n\u00eb asnj\u00eb rrethan\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, shp\u00ebtimi nga martesa, p\u00ebr t\u00eb do t\u00eb thoshte largimin nga sht\u00ebpia dhe familja e saj, ndoshta p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb Indi, familjet e varfra me vajza ambicioze duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb disa llogaritje: Sa duhet t\u00eb investojn\u00eb dhe sa rrezik duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrmarrin, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb shp\u00ebrblim t\u00eb pasigurt n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen? E po aq e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, kush duhet t\u00eb marr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb vendim?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga perspektiva prind\u00ebrore, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht baballar\u00ebve, t\u00eb lejohet q\u00eb vajza t\u00eb shtyj\u00eb martes\u00ebn, t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb shkollimin dhe t\u00eb gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb q\u00eb e pavar\u00ebson financiarisht \u00ebsht\u00eb opsion me rrezik t\u00eb lart\u00eb. Nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb gjen nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb mund t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb familjen e saj nga varf\u00ebria dhe s\u00eb bashku t\u00eb ngriten n\u00eb rradh\u00ebt e klas\u00ebs s\u00eb mesme n\u00eb Indi. Ajo poashtu ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort me status m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb, duke ngritur k\u00ebshtu statusin shoq\u00ebror t\u00eb familjes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Por ky opsion paraprakisht ka kosto t\u00eb lart\u00eb, si tarifat e shkoll\u00ebs dhe viteve shtes\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb vajze n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Dhe \u00e7ka n\u00ebse puna, q\u00ebllimi i gjith\u00eb atij investimi dhe rreziku, nuk materializohet kurr\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nasreen ishte vet\u00ebm 15 vje\u00e7are kur prind\u00ebrit e saj e fejuan me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb 10 vjet m\u00eb t\u00eb madh q\u00eb punonte n\u00eb Arabin\u00eb Saudite, nj\u00eb kush\u00ebri i par\u00eb t\u00eb cilin ajo nuk e kishte takuar kurr\u00eb e familja e t\u00eb cilit jetonte n\u00eb fshatin e saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jeta e saj ndryshoi menj\u00ebher\u00eb. Familja e t\u00eb fejuarit t\u00eb saj e trajtoi Nasreen-\u00ebn si t\u00eb ishte an\u00ebtare e familjes s\u00eb tyre e cila duhej t\u00eb respektonte vendimet e atyre q\u00eb ende nuk ishin as vjeh\u00ebrrit\u00eb e saj. Ata k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebn q\u00eb Nasreen t\u00eb braktiste shkoll\u00ebn, i than\u00eb asaj q\u00eb t\u00eb mos fliste m\u00eb me shoqen e saj m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrfundimisht e ndaluan t\u00eb dilte nga sht\u00ebpia. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ajo u detyrua t\u00eb zgjohej n\u00eb 5 t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit dhe t\u00eb shkonte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e vjehrrit t\u00eb saj t\u00eb ardhsh\u00ebm, ku i kalonte dit\u00ebt e saj duke b\u00ebr\u00eb pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb praktikumit t\u00eb detyrave p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat do t\u00eb ishte p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebse pas martes\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb nat\u00eb pasi ajo i sh\u00ebrbeu darken v\u00ebllait t\u00eb t\u00eb fejuarit t\u00eb saj, si\u00e7 tregoi Nasreen, ai e futi at\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb qoshe, e rr\u00ebzoi n\u00eb shtrat dhe filloi t\u2019ia kapte trupin derisa britmat e saj e soll\u00ebn tezen duke vrapuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Disa jav\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, i nj\u00ebjti v\u00eblla i kontrolloi telefonin Nasreen-\u00ebs dhe gjeti mesazhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat ai pa t\u00eb drejt\u00eb e akuzoi se ishin d\u00ebshmi se ajo s\u2019kishte qen\u00eb besnike ndaj t\u00eb fejuarit t\u00eb saj. Nasreen nuk pati koh\u00eb as q\u00eb t\u00eb shpjegohej para se ai t\u00eb fillonte ta rrihte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb, tezja d\u00ebgjoi britmat e Nasreen-\u00ebs e doli me vrap. Por k\u00ebt\u00eb her\u00eb, edhe ajo filloi t\u2019a rrihte Nasreen-\u00ebn. Derisa po e godisnin me grushta e me dru, Nasreen mendoi se do ta vrisnin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Q\u00eb nga viti 1978, mosha ligjore p\u00ebr grat\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb martohen n\u00eb Indi ka qen\u00eb 18 vje\u00e7. Niveli i martesave me t\u00eb mitura ka p\u00ebsuar r\u00ebnie q\u00eb at\u00ebher\u00eb dhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb mbrojtje ligjore p\u00ebr vajzat u shtua n\u00eb vitin 2006. Por ende 1 n\u00eb 4 gra martohen para se t\u00eb mbushin 18 vje\u00e7, sipas t\u00eb dh\u00ebnave t\u00eb UNICEF-it, si dhe 1 n\u00eb 20 gra martohen para mosh\u00ebs 15 vje\u00e7.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuset m\u00eb \u201cn\u00eb mosh\u00eb\u201d, edhe n\u00ebse jan\u00eb ende n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebzetat e tyre, jan\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb d\u00ebshirueshme nga familjet e burrave, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb vonesa e martes\u00ebs sjell rrezikun e tarifave shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb larta t\u00eb shum\u00ebs q\u00eb paguhet nga familja e gruas. E sa m\u00eb gjat\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pamartuar, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb mund\u00ebsia e saj p\u00ebr martes\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebmtohet nga thashethemet lidhur me virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr grat\u00eb e reja, ka edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr t\u2019u frik\u00ebsuar. Nj\u00eb martes\u00eb e gabuar mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb rreziqe t\u00eb m\u00ebdha si dhun\u00eb n\u00eb familje, p\u00ebrdhunim n\u00eb martes\u00eb (i cili nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kriminalizuar n\u00eb Indi) ose edhe vrasje. Edhe n\u00eb shum\u00eb nga skenar\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, grat\u00eb ende mbeten t\u00eb mbyllura n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me ambiciet e tyre t\u00eb kufizuara n\u00eb detyrat q\u00eb u caktojn\u00eb burrat dhe vjeh\u00ebrria e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00eb nat\u00ebn kur fqinja e Nasreen-\u00ebs u hodh nga dritarja, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb saj shkuan n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e fqinj\u00ebve, duke e l\u00ebn\u00eb Nasreen-\u00ebn vet\u00ebm n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ajo me nguti paketoi nj\u00eb \u00e7ant\u00eb, duke futur brenda peceta higjienike dhe 5,000 rupi (rreth 60 dollar\u00eb) kursime nga dhuratat q\u00eb i kishin dh\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00ebna dhe an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes kur u fejua. Ishte ftoht\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb ajo morri edhe nj\u00eb triko, pastaj nj\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af. Ajo i fshehu t\u00eb gjitha n\u00ebn nj\u00eb shkurre jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb para se familja e saj t\u00eb kthehej. Pastaj ajo priti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rreth or\u00ebs 3 t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit, Nasreen u ngrit nga shtrati, duke u kujdesur t\u00eb mos zgjonte n\u00ebn\u00ebn e saj, e cila flinte pran\u00eb saj. Ajo doli nga sht\u00ebpia, mori \u00e7ant\u00ebn nga vendi ku e kishte fshehur dhe filloi t\u00eb vraponte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rruga kryesore ishte rreth nj\u00eb kilomet\u00ebr nga sht\u00ebpia e Nasreen-\u00ebs dhe asaj i duhej t\u00eb kalonte p\u00ebrmes nj\u00eb shtegu t\u00eb err\u00ebt n\u00eb fshatin e pandri\u00e7uar. Nasreen kishte parasysh rreziqet q\u00eb mund t\u2019i kanoseshin gjat\u00eb nat\u00ebs, p\u00ebrfshi k\u00ebtu gjarp\u00ebrinjt\u00eb, burrat e dhunsh\u00ebm, qent\u00eb e eg\u00ebr q\u00eb sulmonin e vrisnin njer\u00ebzit. Ajo i d\u00ebgjonte qent\u00eb q\u00eb lehnin, por nuk e dinte se ku ishin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kishte vet\u00ebm disa or\u00eb n\u00eb dispozicion, para se familja e saj t\u00eb zgjohej dhe t\u00eb zbulonte se ajo kishte ikur. N\u00ebse ajo nuk do t\u00eb ishte shum\u00eb larg n\u00eb koh\u00ebn kur ata ta kuptonin, p\u00ebrpjekja e saj p\u00ebr arratisje do t\u00eb d\u00ebshtonte. Ajo fokusoi mendjen dhe trupin e saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebllim t\u00eb vet\u00ebm: thjesht t\u00eb vraponte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n