{"id":11742,"date":"2025-12-01T13:17:07","date_gmt":"2025-12-01T12:17:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/qika.org\/?post_type=perspective-post&p=11742"},"modified":"2025-12-01T13:40:52","modified_gmt":"2025-12-01T12:40:52","slug":"thyerjet-qe-si-sheh-askush","status":"publish","type":"perspective-post","link":"https:\/\/qika.org\/en\/perspective-post\/thyerjet-qe-si-sheh-askush\/","title":{"rendered":"Thyerjet q\u00eb s\u2019i sheh askush"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

N\u00eb ver\u00ebn e vitit 2020 lindi Liro. Lindi n\u00eb korrikun plandos\u00ebs nga t\u00eb nxehtit, por jo vet\u00ebm, lindi n\u00eb izolimin total t\u00eb l\u00ebvizjes dhe frik\u00ebs nga pandemia. Nuk isha njeriu i vet\u00ebm q\u00eb i ishin krijuar ndjesi lufte, kur \u00e7do dit\u00eb prisje lajmet e mbr\u00ebmjes me nj\u00eb lloj ang\u00ebshtie p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb vesh p\u00ebr numrin e t\u00eb vdekurve, apo  p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar me z\u00eb lajme tmerruese si \u201cvdiq nj\u00eb grua shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb nga covidi\u201d. <\/strong>Kjo situat\u00eb stresuese ishte shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb normalitet, dhe si rezultat mendja k\u00ebrkonte doz\u00ebn ditore t\u00eb emocioneve q\u00eb njihte, pavar\u00ebsisht se ishin t\u00eb dhimbshme. Lajmet p\u00ebr humbjen e jet\u00ebve t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve ishin b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb njohura dhe truri preferonte t\u00eb rikthehej atje p\u00ebr tu ndier normal, n\u00eb zon\u00ebn e rreme komfore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7anta ime e maternitetit ishte e mbushur me dezinfektant\u00eb dhe faculeta shtes\u00eb, me t\u00eb cilat or\u00eb e \u00e7ast  fshija shtratin dhe gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb m\u00eb duhej t\u00eb prekja. E mbaj mend nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb e kishin futur n\u00eb dhom\u00eb me mua; spitali po mbushej nga gra q\u00eb duhej t\u00eb lindnin, dhe un\u00eb duhej ta ndaja hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn me dik\u00eb, sado q\u00eb ky fakt m\u00eb fuste frik\u00ebn dhe m\u00eb b\u00ebnte t\u2019i shihja t\u00eb gjith\u00eb si armiq.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ajo po b\u00ebhej gati p\u00ebr t\u00eb lindur f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tret\u00eb dhe nuk ishte aspak nervoze si un\u00eb, madje m\u00eb dha nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb q\u00eb kur t\u00eb shkoja n\u00eb tualet t\u00eb b\u00ebja kujdes mos e nxirrja beben jasht\u00eb. N\u00eb vendin ku un\u00eb jetoja, sigurisht se flitej p\u00ebr shtatz\u00ebnin\u00eb e grave, dhe lindjet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, por flitej si gj\u00ebja m\u00eb normale n\u00eb bot\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb e m\u00ebsonin natyrsh\u00ebm. P\u00ebrvojat e grave n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsohen, deri n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa \u00e7do lindje konsiderohet nj\u00ebsoj, por edhe deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb ekstrem t\u00eb till\u00eb, sa p\u00ebr grat\u00eb m\u00eb shpesh thuhet se ato \u201cpollin\u201d, se sa lindin. Gjat\u00eb shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb dhe pak para lindjes b\u00ebja k\u00ebrkime p\u00ebr teknika q\u00eb do t\u00eb ma leht\u00ebsonin procesin e lindjes dhe hyrjen n\u00eb rolin e m\u00ebm\u00ebsis\u00eb, por edhe p\u00ebrpiqesha t\u00eb gjeja qendra, apo grupe q\u00eb ofronin ndarjen dhe shk\u00ebmbimin e p\u00ebrvojave, trajnimin profesional p\u00ebr lindje, dhe informimin dhe edukimim p\u00ebr hapat e par\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebm\u00ebsis\u00eb. Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb afrohej koha e lindjes, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb doja t\u00eb kthehesha mbrapa, dhe meq\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur, un\u00eb u fokusova tek vet\u00ebedukimi p\u00ebr procesin e lindjes, m\u00ebm\u00ebsin\u00eb, dhe gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb vinte bashk\u00eb me lindjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sidoqoft\u00eb, un\u00eb ia dola q\u00eb t\u00eb kisha nj\u00eb lindje t\u00eb mbar\u00eb fal\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitjes dhe trajnimit q\u00eb i kisha b\u00ebr\u00eb vetes, por edhe udh\u00ebzimeve t\u00eb qarta t\u00eb doktoresh\u00ebs q\u00eb asistoi lindjen time; jo vet\u00ebm udh\u00ebzimet, por shtr\u00ebngimin e duarve dhe premtimin se un\u00eb dhe bebja do t\u2019ia dilnim, nuk do t\u00eb vdisnim. Ne ia dol\u00ebm, por m\u00ebngjesi m\u00eb trishtoi pafund kur mora vesh se foshnja e gruas q\u00eb rrinim bashk\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00eb vdiq, nuk kishte rrahje zemre. Nuk e kam harruar asnj\u00ebher\u00eb, dhe n\u00eb \u00e7do dat\u00eblindje t\u00eb Liros kujtohem p\u00ebr t\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kur pas disa muajve q\u00eb linda Liron fillova pun\u00ebn, nuk mundesha ta flak\u00eb tutje m\u00ebrzin\u00eb e vazhdueshme dhe fajin q\u00eb ndjeja, derisa nisa t\u00eb mendoja se roli dhe detyra ime kryesore n\u00eb jet\u00eb ishte t\u00eb qenit n\u00ebn\u00eb. N\u00eb vendin e pun\u00ebs t\u00eb gjith\u00eb m\u00eb trajtonin me brisht\u00ebsi. Isha n\u00ebn\u00eb gjidh\u00ebn\u00ebse, dhe Liro ishte vet\u00ebm tre muajsh. Drejtori i institucionit ku un\u00eb punoja m\u00eb krijonte hap\u00ebsira q\u00eb t\u00eb shkoja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, ta ushqeja t\u00eb voglin dhe t\u00eb kthehesha p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. Por un\u00eb isha e trembur, e hutuar, konfuze, e m\u00ebrzitur dhe e humbur. Saher\u00eb e lija t\u00eb voglin, e puthja dhe p\u00ebrqafoja sikur t\u00eb ishte hera e fundit. I merrja er\u00eb dhe mezi ndahesha. Net\u00ebt i  kisha t\u00eb gjata, dhe dit\u00ebt edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Fytyra e tij m\u00eb vizatohej kudo dhe z\u00ebri i tij m\u00eb ndiqte kudo. M\u00eb vinte sikur po qante, sikur kishte temperatur\u00eb, dhe m\u00eb kapte panika e zija \u00e7ant\u00ebn nga dora dhe ikja nga puna, pa llogaritur p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebrkohej nga un\u00eb. Si mund t\u00eb mbaja p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi tjera kur kisha t\u00eb voglin vet\u00ebm tre muajsh n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi?!  Ndjenjat po m\u00eb r\u00ebndonin dhe, e vetme, po e kisha t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb rritesha n\u00eb rolin tim si n\u00ebn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Muajt dhe vitet q\u00eb pasuan, u p\u00ebrshkuan me eksperiencat m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira t\u00eb jet\u00ebs sime. Sapo isha b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb, sapo isha martuar dhe sapo kisha l\u00ebn\u00eb pun\u00ebn n\u00eb kryeqytet dhe isha kthyer n\u00eb qytetin e lindjes, t\u00eb cilin p\u00ebr sht\u00ebpi se ndjeva kurr\u00eb. Po luftoja me veten si mos m\u00eb keq, me konfliktin p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrshtatur aty ku s\u2019p\u00ebrkisja dhe as nuk do t\u00eb p\u00ebrkisja kurr\u00eb. Liro qante vazhdimisht, dhe kjo mua ma thellonte ndjenj\u00ebn e t\u00ebhuajtjes. Ndihesha e shk\u00ebputur nga vetja ime dhe nuk po e kuptoja m\u00eb se kush isha, \u00e7far\u00eb doja dhe \u00e7far\u00eb po b\u00ebja aty ku isha. Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb tentoja t\u00eb futesha brenda roleve q\u00eb kisha marr\u00eb, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqesha, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb e dhimbshme se si di\u00e7ka kaq e natyrshme si shoq\u00ebria, rrethi, t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh sikur po t\u00ebrheq k\u00ebmb\u00ebt r\u00ebndsh\u00ebm n\u00ebp\u00ebr balt\u00eb dhe s\u2019do t\u00eb dal\u00ebsh kurr\u00eb prej andej. Ndjenja e t\u00ebhuajtjes m\u00eb p\u00ebshp\u00ebriste vazhdimisht se nuk do t\u00eb mund ta p\u00ebrmbushja si duhet rolin e n\u00ebn\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nuk isha e vetmja q\u00eb ndihesha sikur kisha humbur, dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt s\u2019m\u00eb shtyenin para. Por ishte nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn do t\u00eb duhej t\u00eb hyja, n\u00ebn ang\u00ebshtin\u00eb e p\u00ebrjetimit dhe detyr\u00ebs s\u00eb re, por q\u00eb duhej ta b\u00ebja, sadoq\u00eb askush s\u2019po ma leht\u00ebsonte si proces, vet\u00ebm po ma v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsonte dhe po m\u00eb b\u00ebnin t\u00eb ndihesha e pavler\u00eb, e luajtur mendsh dhe n\u00eb dhimbje t\u00eb m\u00ebdha psikosomatike, t\u00eb cilat m\u00eb jan\u00eb dashur vite p\u00ebr t\u2019i zbutur. Sepse, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ne trajtohemi kur nuk i p\u00ebrshtatemi pritshm\u00ebrive dhe fatit ton\u00eb t\u00eb paracaktuar, pa fjal\u00eb dhe pa z\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb rrjete sociale po takoja dhe po bisedoja me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb nuk i kisha takuar kurr\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn time, por qe m\u00eb jepnin shum\u00eb ngroht\u00ebsi, duke ndar\u00eb p\u00ebrvojat e tyre m\u00eb mua, duke m\u00eb p\u00ebrqafuar nga atje larg dhe duke m\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoja se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nuk duhet ta diktojn\u00eb fatin t\u00ebnd dhe t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, dhe se duhet t\u00eb m\u00ebsonim t\u00eb filtronim njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb ishin n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb hapnin dritare t\u00eb reja kur ndjejm\u00eb se po na zihet fryma, p\u00ebrmes t\u00eb cilave do t\u00eb hynte dielli, dhe ata t\u00eb cil\u00ebt na ngulfasin p\u00ebrdit\u00eb e m\u00eb tep\u00ebr. Njer\u00ebzit po m\u00eb m\u00ebsonin ta doja veten dhe t\u00eb ndieja dhembshuri p\u00ebr t\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7astet kur un\u00eb veten time e kisha mb\u00ebshtetur p\u00ebr muri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Krisitn Neff, n\u00eb romanin e saj \u201cFierce Self Compaassion\u201d, trajtonte pik\u00ebrisht konceptin e dhembshuris\u00eb ndaj vetes, hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb trajtuar veten me mir\u00ebsi, p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar q\u00eb jemi pjes\u00eb e p\u00ebrvojave t\u00eb ndryshme njer\u00ebzore, dhe q\u00eb vuajtja n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr duhet t\u00eb na sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur kufij, t\u00eb mbrojm\u00eb veten nga situata q\u00eb na d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb, t\u00eb veprojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur nevojat tona dhe t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb ne mendojm\u00eb se nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb rregull. T\u00eb themi MJAFT!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Edhe un\u00eb, edhe t\u00eb gjitha ne q\u00eb jemi rritur n\u00eb kultur\u00ebn vet\u00eb sakrifikuese, e kemi t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta gjejm\u00eb ekuilibrin p\u00ebr t\u00eb trajtuar veten me mir\u00ebsi, sepse ekzistojn\u00eb pritshm\u00ebri shoq\u00ebrore q\u00eb e kufizojn\u00eb individualitetin dhe nevojat tona p\u00ebr veten, e kufizojn\u00eb shprehjen e zem\u00ebrimit si gra, autonomin\u00eb ton\u00eb si gra dhe nuk e duan fuqin\u00eb ton\u00eb p\u00ebr ta rimarr\u00eb vet\u00ebn nga situatat e izolimit. E duan \u201cnormalen\u201d, dhe normalja \u00ebsht\u00eb kur ti sapo ke lindur, t\u00eb dish t\u00eb b\u00ebsh nj\u00eb kek t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb servosh kafen turke ashtusi\u00e7 e kan\u00eb shijen t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Sigurisht, ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka e kan\u00eb m\u00eb kollaj, por ata jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz \u201cnormal\u201d, dhe un\u00eb ende p\u00ebrpiqem ta luftoj ndjenj\u00ebn e munges\u00ebs s\u00eb k\u00ebtij normaliteti, duke faj\u00ebsuar veten p\u00ebr \u201csi s\u2019munda t\u00eb jem normal nj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Betejat e thella psikike t\u00eb individ\u00ebve n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb perceptohen me munges\u00ebn e t\u00eb qenit normal, dhe ndikimi i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb i pashmangsh\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, dhe sigurisht se mungesa e trajtimit t\u00eb sfidave me sh\u00ebndetin mendor ve\u00e7 \u00e7on n\u00eb izolim m\u00eb t\u00eb madh, dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb funksionimin e p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm, si\u00e7 ndodhi edhe me mua. Ta sqarojm\u00eb, se asgj\u00eb nga k\u00ebto nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb munges\u00eb e dashuris\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00eb duhet ta pranoj q\u00eb asokohe nuk isha e mir\u00ebinformuar p\u00ebr izolimin social q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoja pas lindjes, dhe vite m\u00eb pas, p\u00ebr m\u00ebrzin\u00eb e vazhdueshme q\u00eb ndieja dhe q\u00eb s\u2019mund ta \u00e7liroja asnj\u00ebher\u00eb barr\u00ebn e r\u00ebnd\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb kishte r\u00ebn\u00eb mbi supe; thjesht\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ndieja se b\u00ebja mir\u00eb edhe t\u00eb mos ekzistoja fare. N\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr isha e vet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr variacione gjykimi q\u00eb lidheshin me ndjesit\u00eb e mija dhe efektet e tij n\u00eb socializim, stigmatizimin, dhe realitetin q\u00eb po shembej para meje. Po humbja t\u00eb gjith\u00eb dhe gjith\u00e7ka, shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe \u00ebndrrat, por meq\u00eb \u00e7do grua t\u00eb af\u00ebrme q\u00eb kisha biseduar me t\u00eb deri m\u00eb tani, p\u00ebrvojat e tilla I konsideronte normale dhe si \u201cdetyr\u00eb e n\u00ebn\u00ebs\u201d, mua s\u2019m\u00eb mbeti asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, p\u00ebrvec p\u00ebr 5 vite me radh\u00eb, t\u00eb shikoja, t\u00eb akumuloja zem\u00ebrimin, t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesha t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatesha, t\u00eb vdisja p\u00ebrdit\u00eb nga brenda dhe n\u00eb fund, t\u00eb b\u00ebrtisja q\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lirohesha. M\u00cbSOVA T\u00cb THOJA MJAFT!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Duke e par\u00eb historin\u00eb time dhe pezullimin e \u00e7do aktiviteti t\u00eb mundsh\u00ebm q\u00eb mua ma mbante gjall\u00eb identitetin, d\u00ebgjova nj\u00eb intervist\u00eb t\u00eb Rudina Xhungas, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e kam pasur shum\u00eb qejf q\u00eb nga klasa e shtat\u00eb, kur lexova librin e saj \u201cSikur Anna\u2026\u201d, dhe kuptova se shkrirja e identitetit ndodh\u00eb tek t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj. Vetja humbet form\u00eb dhe shp\u00ebrb\u00ebhet. M\u00ebm\u00ebsia shkat\u00ebrron autonomin\u00eb, dhe i nd\u00ebrlikon marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet me \u00e7do komponent t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. N\u00eb at\u00eb intervist\u00eb, ajo shfaqte dor\u00ebzimin e saj p\u00ebrball\u00eb mosh\u00ebs dhe detyrave t\u00eb reja q\u00eb sillnin rolet  gjinore, si n\u00ebn\u00eb, si bashk\u00ebshorte, si bij\u00eb, por vet\u00ebm si shkrimtare jo. Kishte hequr dor\u00eb nga shkrimi, sepse t\u00eb shkruarit ishte di\u00e7ka q\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte guxim, dhe me kalimin e koh\u00ebs grat\u00eb e humbin guximin, sepse shoq\u00ebria i frik\u00ebson. Ajo sikur fliste nga zemra e dhimbjes, dhe ngjante me gruan e pak\u00ebnaqur q\u00eb me zor ka tejkaluar vorbull\u00ebn e transformimit, p\u00ebr ta zhvendosur v\u00ebmendjen tek kaosi, tek konflikti mes pritjeve t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb dhe realitetit t\u00eb brisht\u00eb. Kisha shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoja histori t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, si m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb rind\u00ebrtuar kuptim, dhe t\u2019i krijoja vetes leht\u00ebsi kur shikoja se si p\u00ebrvojat tona mund t\u00eb rr\u00ebfehen edhe p\u00ebrmes t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. M\u00eb clironte! Sigurisht se si koncepte I kisha gjetur n\u00eb librat e Rachel Cusk, pak koh\u00eb pas lindjes kur po tentoja t\u00eb rigjeja veten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Durimi dhe dashuria e njer\u00ebzve me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt isha shum\u00eb e af\u00ebrt n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb m\u00eb ndihmuan ta tejkaloj at\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs sime, edhe pse problemet me izolimin vazhduan. Andaj vazhdova t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoja libra dhe artikuj ku t\u00eb tjer\u00eb si un\u00eb ndanin hallet, problemet dhe sfidat e tyre t\u00eb ngjashme. P\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur izolimin, e kisha z\u00ebn\u00eb veten me pun\u00eb: punoja gjat\u00eb dhe n\u00eb dy nd\u00ebrrime. N\u00eb t\u00eb parin kryesisht k\u00ebshilloja se si t\u2019u jepnin f\u00ebmij\u00ebve m\u00eb shum\u00eb dashuri, nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb t\u00eb dytin k\u00ebrkoja simptoma q\u00eb i kund\u00ebrshtonin \u00e7rregullimet neurorozhvillimore te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Pa harruar se, sa her\u00eb kisha mund\u00ebsi, lexoja edhe p\u00ebr p\u00ebrvojat e njer\u00ebzve n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht ato t\u00eb grave t\u00eb reja, q\u00eb m\u00eb dukeshin se mish\u00ebroheshin me t\u00eb miat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00eb Kosov\u00eb nuk ekzistojn\u00eb as qendra, as sh\u00ebrbime q\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr problemin e izolimit t\u00eb grave; madje k\u00ebto p\u00ebrpjekje nuk jan\u00eb as t\u00eb pakta, dhe fatkeq\u00ebsisht evitohen, duke mos l\u00ebn\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar gjendjen dhe p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrgjigjur nevojave t\u00eb grave, pa dallim statusi. Por, ka nj\u00eb pik\u00eb, q\u00eb vet\u00ebm ato q\u00eb jan\u00eb me fat takohen, bisedat me bashk\u00ebmendimtare, dhe ndarjet e p\u00ebrvojave aty ku kuptohesh i japin nj\u00eb dimension t\u00eb ri k\u00ebtij problemi. N\u00eb fund krejt, gjeta nj\u00eb term q\u00eb shpjegonte problemet e shum\u00eb grave, e q\u00eb quhej \u201cMEDIKALIZIMI I M\u00cbM\u00cbSIS\u00cb\u201d, si nj\u00eb thirrje p\u00ebr ta studiuar dhe analizuar n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, dhe zhvendosur thelbin e problemit tek kultura patriarkale q\u00eb i vret grat\u00eb p\u00ebrdit\u00eb, sesa tek antidepresant\u00ebt q\u00eb kurojn\u00eb jonormalitetin e grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ky artikull \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahur nga programi i Fondacionit Kosovar p\u00ebr Shoq\u00ebri Civile (KCSF) \u2018EJA Kosov\u00eb\u2019, bashk\u00ebfinancuar nga Agjencia Zvicerane p\u00ebr Zhvillim dhe Bashk\u00ebpunim (SDC) dhe Suedia. 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