Shoq\u00ebria ka p\u00ebrcaktuar se maskuliniteti \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje e t\u00eb gjitha problemeve, por n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb, ky pushtet ka arritur te p\u00ebrjashtoj \u00e7do individ p\u00ebrpos burrave maskilinist, t\u00eb bardh\u00eb, me privilegje. Pra, i gjith\u00eb fati i njer\u00ebzimit u determinua nga burrat – p\u00ebr burrat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rregull i pashkruar n\u00eb let\u00ebr, por i gravuar thell\u00eb n\u00eb mendjet e sistemeve patriarkale. \u00c7do kush q\u00eb tenton ta zhb\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb rregull, ta kund\u00ebrshtoj, apo ta luftoj, at\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret forca, p\u00ebrulja, dhuna, madje edhe vrasja n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb nevoja. Vet\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb ushqehet maskuliniteti i burrave \u2013 p\u00ebr burrat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kur grat\u00eb dhe vajzat dalin kund\u00ebr k\u00ebtyre rregullave, at\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me kompleksin e maskulinitetit toksik dhe \u201cgjith\u00ebdijen\u201d e burrave, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt, p\u00ebrdorin t\u00eb gjitha mjetet, p\u00ebr q\u00ebllimin kryesor e t\u00eb \u201clavdish\u00ebm\u201d, shtypjen e grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cN\u00eb at\u00eb protest\u00eb marrin pjes\u00eb ve\u00e7 laviret<\/em>\u201d ishte nj\u00ebri nga komentet e armat\u00ebs patriarkale t\u00eb burrave, n\u00eb rrjete sociale, rreth marshit t\u00eb 8 marsit. \u201cMarshojm\u00eb kund\u00ebr vrasjes s\u00eb grave\u201d ishte thirrja kryesore n\u00eb at\u00eb marsh. Kaq e thjesht\u00eb, kaq esenciale \u2013 e drejta p\u00ebr jet\u00eb, e drejt\u00eb fundamentale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb ndalemi fillimisht tek elaborim i fjal\u00ebs lavire:\u201clav\u00edr\/e,-ja em\u00ebr i gjinis\u00eb fem\u00ebrore; numri shum\u00ebs; -e(t); me ngjyrim p\u00ebrbuz\u00ebs; fem\u00ebr e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb\u201d.<\/em> Tendenca p\u00ebr degradimin e identitetit dhe rolit t\u00eb gruas buron thell\u00eb nga patriarkalizmi dhe logjika e mbajtjes s\u00eb grave n\u00eb sfer\u00ebn private. Andaj, \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb del nga sfera private konsiderohet \u201cp\u00ebrdalje\u201d, \u201cshthurje\u201d, \u201cprishje e moralit\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ndon\u00ebse kjo b\u00ebhet m\u00eb q\u00ebllim t\u00eb shtypjes s\u00eb grave dhe z\u00ebrit t\u00eb tyre, \u201cThe Bitch Manifesto\u201d elaboron se \u00e7ka do t\u00eb thot\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nj\u00eb lavire:<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb personalitet: Laviret jan\u00eb agresive, k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebse, dominuese, mbizot\u00ebruese, armiq\u00ebsore, t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejta, t\u00eb hapura, t\u00eb sinqerta, kok\u00ebfort\u00eb, konkurruese, t\u00eb pavarura, k\u00ebrkuese, egoiste, t\u00eb arritura, t\u00eb frikshme, ambicioze, t\u00eb ashpra, t\u00eb guximshme, maskuline, feminine, t\u00eb zhurmshme… Nd\u00ebr t\u00eb tjera, nj\u00eb lavire z\u00eb vend n\u00eb mendimet e tua. Ju gjithmon\u00eb do ta dini se ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb diku gjetk\u00eb. Nj\u00eb lavire nuk toleron asgj\u00eb prej askujt. Mund t\u00eb mos ju p\u00eblqej\u00eb, por nuk mund ta injoroni at\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb fizik: Laviret jan\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, t\u00eb vogla, t\u00eb gjata, t\u00eb shkurtra, t\u00eb forta, t\u00eb guximshme, t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira, t\u00eb ngath\u00ebta. Laviret l\u00ebvizin lirsh\u00ebm trupat e tyre n\u00eb vend se t\u00eb kufizohen. Ato ngjitin shkall\u00ebt, b\u00ebjn\u00eb hapa t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj kur ecin dhe nuk shqet\u00ebsohen se ku i vendosin k\u00ebmb\u00ebt kur ulen. Ato kan\u00eb z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb dhe e p\u00ebrdorin shpesh. Laviret nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb \u201clezetshme\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Orientimi: Laviret e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb identitetin e tyre n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb rigoroze p\u00ebrmes vetes dhe asaj q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb. Ato jan\u00eb subjekte, jo objekte. Ato jan\u00eb lira n\u00eb veprim dhe besojn\u00eb se jan\u00eb t\u00eb afta t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb duan. Shpesh ato akuzohen p\u00ebr dominim kur b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb konsiderohej e natyrshme p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7do her\u00eb kur nj\u00eb grua, grup i grave apo l\u00ebvizje feministe tenton t\u2019i jap z\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve si femicidit, ngacmimeve seksuale, dhun\u00ebs me baz\u00eb gjinore, personave LGBTIQ+, shtypjes racore, ekonomike, religjioze etj, ato jan\u00eb lavire, sepse nj\u00eb \u201cgrua e denj\u00eb\u201d nuk b\u00ebrtet, ajo duron shtypjen. N\u00ebse liria ime paska nj\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizim tjet\u00ebr prej liris\u00eb s\u00eb burrave; at\u00ebher\u00eb un\u00eb jam lavire. Madje lavire krenare. N\u00ebse do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se jam e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb kur un\u00eb pun\u00ebsohem, jetoj si dua, shprehem si dua, dal kur dua, protestoj, kund\u00ebrshtoj dhe nuk afirmoj mendimet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, at\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizimi \u201ce p\u00ebrdal\u00eb\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb i q\u00eblluar. Un\u00eb jam e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb, madje e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb krenare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb patriarkale konceptojn\u00eb lirin\u00eb e gruas p\u00ebrmes burrit. Burrat konsiderohen njer\u00ebz, nd\u00ebrsa grat\u00eb jan\u00eb di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr; femra, dyt\u00ebsore. K\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb grat\u00eb njer\u00ebz, duhet gjithmon\u00eb t\u2019u binden burrave dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrveprojn\u00eb p\u00ebrmes tyre. P\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb nj\u00eb grua, ajo duhet t\u2019i n\u00ebnshtrohet burrit dhe ta nderoj at\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebmbim t\u00eb nj\u00eb \u201cjete m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nj\u00eb \u201clavire\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim p\u00ebr strukturat shoq\u00ebrore, sepse ajo nuk bindet dhe nuk n\u00ebnshtrohet, nj\u00eb lavire dekonstrukton konstruktin e \u201cgruas ideale\u201d t\u00eb patriarkatit q\u00eb skllav\u00ebrojn\u00eb ato dhe vlerat e tjera q\u00eb e justifikojn\u00eb mbajtjen e gruas n\u00eb pozit\u00ebn q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb. Nj\u00eb lavire, \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshmia m\u00eb e mir\u00eb se skllav\u00ebrimi nuk duhet t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb dhe ngre pluhur mbi funksionimin e po k\u00ebtyre strukturave. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, nj\u00eb grua e till\u00eb klasifikohet si devijante. Burrat e kategorizojn\u00eb at\u00eb si jonjer\u00ebzore dhe aspak si grua. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shtypja tjet\u00ebr e shum\u00ebfisht\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrjeton nj\u00eb grua lavire. Laviret nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb shtypura vet\u00ebm si gra, por shtypen edhe pse nuk jan\u00eb \u201cgra t\u00eb mir\u00ebfillta\u201d. Nj\u00eb lavire konsiderohet fanatike, sepse as burrat e as grat\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me realitetin e nj\u00eb lavireje, sepse nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb do t’i detyronte ata t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me realitetin e tyre t\u00eb korruptuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Laviret jan\u00eb nj\u00eb shembull mjaft i mir\u00eb se \u00e7ka do t\u00eb thot\u00eb rezistenca. N\u00ebse vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb her\u00eb ke ndje brenda vet\u00ebs se di\u00e7ka nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull me krejt m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si po funksionon rrethi yt dhe kjo shoq\u00ebri e dhunshme p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb je nj\u00eb lavire. N\u00ebse n\u00eb momente t\u00eb ndryshme je gjendur para situatave ku t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur q\u00eb me dhun\u00eb t\u00eb largosh nga vetja nj\u00eb burr\u00eb i cili t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb afruar pa dashjen t\u00ebnde, ke denoncuar ne polici p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdo padrejt\u00ebsie q\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb, ke refuzuar t\u00eb konformohesh ndaj rregullave maskuline, at\u00ebher\u00eb je nj\u00eb lavire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dekonstruktimi i em\u00ebrtimit lavire \u00ebsht\u00eb thelb\u00ebsor dhe i nevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb zhvler\u00ebsuar ndikimin negativ q\u00eb ky p\u00ebrkufizim ka p\u00ebrcjell\u00eb gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebsaj kohe. Andaj, t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi t\u00eb gjitha lavire – lavire krenare – meqen\u00ebse k\u00ebt\u00eb em\u00ebrtim paska liria jon\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":4122,"template":"","class_list":["post-4121","perspective-post","type-perspective-post","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n